This is my Birthday!

This is my Birthday!

  10:01:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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Dear All!

Thank you so much for wishing my birthday. It means a lot for me. I am so glad having you all amazing people in my life. You have made my day wonderful today even I was working during this

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special day, I was bound by the sense of feeling of your unconditional love that was revealed throughout my heart. I am so proud for having you all in my world. I wouldn’t be this much wiser and generic without your emotional support and wishes. Your prayers and thought have given me a great strength to move forward in life.

I am feeling so glad and blessed because of your presence in my world. Many friends and relatives started to spark the flood of wishes since yesterday as it was already today in Nepal and India. I understood today how important in life, having the friends and relatives in my life like you. I don’t have any words to express my gratitude to you and I am so proud that you have made me, I am really overwhelmed today and I am grateful to you all for being an important part of my life.
I am so thankful to my Mom who brought me into this world carrying in her womb for nine months. I can feel how tough it was during those days. I can realize now how difficult for her to grow me. I mightn’t have let her sleep when she was tired, she couldn’t have eaten when she was hungry and she didn’t have enough rest when she needed. My first respects and gratitude go to my mother on this special day. If she were not in this world, I wouldn’t be standing here now. There is nothing more precious than my parents in this world. They always owe my first gratitude for being a human of this world.

Secondly, I realized today how important to have a true friend in life. It doesn’t matter for the physical distance to remember and wish to your closest friend wherever you are. I must have forgotten to wish many of your birthdays because I don’t visit the Facebook every day. But I learned that how worth, it is for praying for someones for the prosperity and wellbeing. Every human being is pondering in different circumstances, but putting aside all of the stuff there is nothing more than a true friendship in this world. I wish to have your blessing forever until I am alive in this world. Once again thank you so much!

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The memory reveals back to the past

The memory reveals back to the past

  7:52:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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The memory reveals back even after many years


It was the moments of student life and we all had a different set of a dream. Most probably, our curiosity was beyond the level of the horizon to hear each other past and present story more than how to study hard and make sure our future to bring to be true. Absolutely, we were conscious about our study and present scenario, but we didn't miss that opportunity sharing our feelings and story that was so fabulous.


We three girls were closely located around the same locations so we could gather when our BBS exam was close to us. Two of our friends one was living in hostels and one was resided quite far used to come to make a pile together. Most probably Pramila and my place where the common to choose

From left Parbati, Pramila, Padma, Indira & Geeta

for joint study. Daytime would spend on a regular basis asking questions to each other, resolving the problems and helping to each other, but most of the night times we spent in the guff ships. Those were very pretty and exciting. We talked about our dream boy and discussed the type of men who could be our princes.


We were from the different thought and background. We were growing up in a different culture and environment. Some of us were very open to sharing everything with friends and enjoyed telling the own story and some feelings with friends, but some were the very reserved type and never shared what kind and the type of her dream boy would be. I remember one of my friend Geeta who was born in Dharan but from the Chhetri family background. I don’t know the reason, but she never shared the type of her dream prince. She must be the luckiest one who found her prince without sharing with friends.

I must be one of the most sentimental girls in the group. I remember we had gone to the dry picnic to Itahari and I forgot the name. I was sinking in the fantasy and had brought many cassettes to play on that day. Fortunately, I was saved by the Padma, she was quite intelligent and humorous who compelled us all to dance eventually in English pop songs. I just remember one song name might be “ my heart goes salala “ not sure it has been a more than a decade now.

I remember Pramila who was close to me, I spent several nights at her home and she came to me as well sharing all pressure, pain, and happiness. We even spent the night on the roof as the weather was too hot. While we were sleeping, the rain began and he had hurriedly moved inside the room downstairs. It seemed like yesterday, but time has left us behind very far. She must have a grown up son now. But I don’t know the barrier between her and me we are not in touch even she reveals frequently in my memory.

I met two of them last year. One had a five year of the girl with her and one was expecting. I had 15 months boys with me. I became glad at least they came to visit me and invited me to the gathering, providing the opportunities to see them together. It was the precious moments to spend the time with friends after almost more than a decade. I became very happy with them and having a time that revealed my past.

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Using electronic babysitter

Using electronic babysitter

  7:53:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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My two-year little boy goes to daycare for five days in a week and weekend two days spend with me. I feel so glad to be with him and enjoy the moments. Even I want to make him fun most of the time, but he is kind of moody. Sometimes he becomes happy with himself and plays with his toys without caring my presence, but sometimes he doesn't leave me even to go to the restroom and kitchen. I don't any choice without putting him in front of the television and showing him his favorite show.

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Most of the success stories begin with failures

Most of the success stories begin with failures

  5:34:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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When we see the most successful people of the world we imagine that how fortunate they are having that level of accomplishment. They might have raised and grown up with the hilarious family background, they must have gone to the best school and university in their lives that's the reason they

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are there now. But, in fact, many successful people in this world didn’t or don’t have everything that we think of their lives in the beginning rather many of their family had been suffering due to various scarcity and shortage of economic and many substances though they worked hard and reached the top of the highest peak.

While looking at the life of many successful people of this earth, it seems that their success is associated with their failure. Jack Ma one of the China richest men and one of the richest men in the world has shared his stories on youtube. He failed many times in life before embracing the success and becoming one of the richest men in this world. He failed his entrance exam to join his college three times and failed to join the Harvard University ten times, but he never gave up his hope to succeed in life. After his college graduation, he applied almost 30 jobs, but he was rejected. He applied the job for the police, five people went for the job, four were hired and he was only the one who was rejected. In the same ways he went for the job for KFC when that was initially started in China, 25 had applied for the job, 24 were hired and he was only the one who was rejected.

It proves that failure is not the end of our life or nothing wrong would happen, we fail or rejected even several times, but we have to take a patience and we have to focus on our goal. We have to be used to taking the rejection, whatever it is for the job or any kind of trial it could be. We couldn’t be successful only in the first trial. Failure is the guidance and the directors for the future. We have to learn from the mistake we made in the past and shape the future based on the experience. I am writing this blog doesn’t mean I am the one who succeeds but I am in the process and I hope my research will be fruitful to you all to go forward and move the life toward the success and happiness.

The co-founder of Apple company Steve Jobs reveals the same failure story. He was one of the college dropout students and was also a rejected by the Apple company one time, but returned back to the company later on. He never gave up his hope and invention of the new technology. Due to his hard work and dedication, he brought the revolution in the technology.

While looking the life of one of the most popular and successful writer J.K rolling her success also associates with numerous failures. She had a passion for writing and never gave up her hope of writing and bringing her passion for being true. Her manuscripts were rejected to publish many times. She had survived one time with government support becoming a single mother of little children. But her failure eventually dictated her to be one of the most earner women writers in the world.

While reviewing the success story of the great people in this world, most of them have faced the rejection and failure, but they accepted them. They focused on their dream what they have in their mind. They never hesitated to take challenges and got inspired by the great people either by movie or reading throughout the book. They had a determination and they devoted their life to be there one time. All their hard work, passion, devotion, dream and dedication to something they wanted to achieve are the result of their success that we all the general people should understand in our life. We should be the follower of successful and positive minded leaving all other stuff aside. Let's cherish the life and enjoy the fullest!

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A man with a dream ( Mahabir Pun)

A man with a dream ( Mahabir Pun)

  8:55:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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Having the university degree from the United State a man returned back to his own village to spark the light of educations to the people of his birthplace. He is the man with a dream and now is the hope and future of brighter Nepal. He has left his personal comfort and joy and has dedicated on

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developing the nation with innovation and technology has a statement that " we are always learning."
Mahabir pun who was born in the remote village of Nangi is one of the inspirations of all young generations and hope of Nepalese to be reached at the peak of development.

Nepal has been one of the least developed countries in the world and he has a dream to develop it and  has started a project of innovation. He had a dream to teach the people of his village with the technology and innovation and taught the computer to the students of his school and his fellow teachers but proved that it was impossible to connect with the closest city Pokhara by telephone. He had collected the used computer with a campaign from Japan, Australia, Malasia etc to give computer knowledge in that villages. He wanted to give them an education of digital technology, which was not possible without the internet. He discovered the wireless internet which connected many villages with urban areas. He had started a Nepal wireless project in 2002. People in that area now having the life of an internet like of developed countries.

Pun had decided to help the people in the rural development by educating them. He found that those places were left behind as like nobody else lives there. His launched the program of sustainable development and natural conservation has had a superfluous impact for those who are entirely dependent on nature.In 2007, Pun received the Ramon Magsaysay Award from the Philippines for his “community leadership and innovative application of wireless technology in Nepal, bringing progress to remote mountain areas by connecting his village to the global village.”

Pun has established a National innovation center in order to accelerate the Nepal with the requirement of the 21st century. He attempted for the support from the Nepal government, but they didn't pay that much attention to his project, now he is taking the initiation he will make it happen possible with the support of each individual people who want the change and development. This is not for the personal goal, but he has a great vision and mission to reach Nepal high and I know it's all the inspiration and motivation for the young people as many of them have started their lives in the foreign land even with the love of the country and many are trying to get away. But there are many things to learn from his life.

"The migration rate of the young Nepali innovative and creative minds is accelerating, even more, every year. On the other hand, the researchers, scientists, and innovators, who are still living in Nepal, have not been able to work in their capacity because of the lack of inductive environment."

For more detail
https://www.nicnepal.org/mission-and-need-innovation-center-in-nepal/

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Moving forward

Moving forward

  7:36:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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I have heard that even the age goes away, but the mind and thought stay always young. I spent this weekend watching two Nepalese movies after an age. It was not preplanned neither had thought I would good to go that way, it was turned on while searching a video for my little boy. The first one

My birth Place Sanghu-4, Taplejung. Photo BY Mingma Sherpa

was entertaining and after then the second was auto played. Eventually, I ended up spending my precious time that I had segregated to do something important, but I let it be because I have to allow my thought to be flirting sometimes in the fantasy to wander around without any purpose.

Those scenarios of the movies led me to dive back my early age when I was with my parents and beloved family members. I had many beautiful friends during my school and college life. It was really amazing more than what I can revel now. I assumed I was in the life of having all of them surrounding that's how I enjoyed the moments. I realized everything has two sides positive and negative. I enjoyed watching that was good one, but on the other hand, it drived me toward the old memory me back and wounded for  the separation of those moments. I missed my family, friends and loved ones and  found myself alone in the dark hole like I am in the different wonderland.


I went to my village after eight years last time but it was my unfortunate;  me and my little boy both became sick. I had thought to see all my friends, relatives,  my seniors and teachers who had still remained there in the same profession.  Nothing  went on as per my plans.The first thing; I was mourning for my dad and we were preparing for the last ritual farewell ceremony. I was emotionally not well and also became sick physically. The weather was very cold outside I even couldn't stay little longer in the yard. I kept on sleeping most of the time unwillingly. I had to move out from that place even without putting a step on my beautiful school where I spent my childhood playing around and started to write letters in the dust.

Many beautiful memories are there in my mind piling up inside, but we human being has to move forward to the journey that we have. We are movable and have to keep on going until our last breath. My I left my family and relatives only after a short span of time. I had to rush away with my baby because the water and the place didn't recognize me and my baby even I was familiar since my birth. It became strange to my body, not my thought and mind. I had grown up there and asked them please let me stay little longer, but nature didn't hear my request rather it looked very hurry to send me away from that place.

I have a great regret for not meeting many friends. One of my guest who was a student of my father and was my senior classmate had attended on my dad's ceremony, but I wasn't able to talk him twice except hi and hello once. One of my friends who also my niece had visited me that night, but I expected her visit next time but I think she couldn't come back for the second time. The oldest senior member of our family who was one my great aunties was there but became unable to talk to her even though I had several questions in my mind to ask her for the future reference. She died before a month or two and that was my last meeting. It saddened me a lot and broke several times after l lost my dad. I lost my many relatives continuously one after another.

Wherever I am, I always reach to my childhood many times in dream. I found myself going to school, playing with friends and sometimes I would be preparing for the exam. I am physically away from my village, but regardless of the physical distance the childhood memory is revealing frequently coming to in my dream and sometimes haunts me in the present consciously going back and forth. I hope I will have the opportunity to visit again. I am positive and optimistic and think that we all have many years to go and will come back soon one day to meet you all and to cherish the life again!

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Identifying own values

Identifying own values

  11:51:00 AM    Indirasite.com

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We many people don't know and understand our own value rather we identify only the other who has a great job, family, relatives, and everything. We are good at identifying our own problem and

Beautiful Flower By Bardhoj Okhrabro

weakness rather than our own strength and value. We always think our problem is bigger than what other people have and think that I am only the one in this world having suffered and trouble.

None of the life has been set 100 percent perfect ways. Everyone has problems, setbacks, flaws, and suffering, but only the difference is how we tackle and handle them. The people who understand the value and meaning of life have the capacity to handle the problem and suffering wisely than the person who doesn't identify the own value. We always see someone who is better than us, who has better life, better job and better earning. This kind of comparison makes us feel so sad and we lose our value and confidence of enjoying the life. We forget to recognize our own value and importance to the people and society rather think that I am the most unfortunate one in this world because I don't have this and that as my friends have a better life that than what I have.
In order to identify our own value, we have to understand us deeply who we are, how are own contribution is great for the family, siblings, parents, children and everyone surrounding us.

Even though we might not have been able to help them as needed, but we are the important part of their life because even we can't give money or physical possession but at least we can console them when they are sad. We can spread our love to them, can contribute our little help regardless of the ways we choose to do. Our love, compassion, and empathy are important to our family, friends, and relatives. We have to identify our own value how I could be helpful to someone in need instead discovering myself useless component.

Despite of people's negative thought and treatment toward us, if we keep on identifying our own value in this world we will be able to prioritize the work that needs to be done within a certain period of time. It makes us emotionally strong enough to face any kinds of challenges that come to us. We can confront any kinds of setbacks and battle in life if we are mentally strong which is possible if we identify our own value and importance of living our own life in this world. I assume myself, I am a precious to my family, friends, and relatives regardless of what they think and treat me.  I apply same things among the people ignoring their bad talk or negative thought. I am strong enough to handle any kinds of challenges in life and want to prepare you all of the same ways doesn't matter what kind of situation you are having now.

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True beauty shines through heart

True beauty shines through heart

  7:23:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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Everyone likes to be beautiful and everything that we like is beautiful things. Beauty is an attraction of our eyes. We like a beautiful place, beautiful house, beautiful person and everything is connected with beauty. But the true beauty lies within and it shines through the heart. Even the people who are

Beautiful photo by Bardhoj Okhrabo

beautiful on its face, features and body don't mean they could be the beauty of their thought and heart.

The outer beauty can be made and prepared. We can make a natural beauty of applying the color and decorations. We can make a beautiful house, beautiful place filling with artificial entities which are required to decorate. Even an ugly person can change their appearance by plastic surgery. Everything is possible in this world to make it happen, but the value of inner beauty is more important than what someone might appear by its outer looks. Everyone wants to be pretty by itself, but we are the nature of the gift and not equally beautiful as all of our natural structure.

Some could be very beautiful by its appearance, but despite the physical appearances, some could be beautiful by the inner thought and soul. In fact, the inner beauty is more precious and valuable than the outer beauty and it is beyond the physical outlooks. We can change the outer beauty, but if someone is ugly by its thought and heart it is quite difficult to change it.  Beautiful thought and mind are appreciated by all the human beings. All the great people in the world have been popular not because they had a beautiful appearance, but they had a beautiful thought and a beautiful soul. Inner beauty is achieved and developed by the people of self-determination, esteem, and self-motivation. Someone should have the dedication to be beautiful by blissful thought, kindness and generosity it isn't only applying the artificial cosmetic on the face and body.

Inner beauty is more preferable than outer beauty because outer beauty is always for temporary as a makeup can make someone pretty for awhile, but it doesn't last and it goes away after washing off the face but inner beauty lies in the lasting period of time. A beautiful people is can't be guaranteed he/ she could be nice, but an inner beauty has a confidence in believing the people thought and intention for making something difference who has an unconditional love, compassion, and kindness that comes from the soul

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Sustainable Happiness

Sustainable Happiness

  8:16:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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Sustainable happiness is not something which is delivered by someone or something but it is achieved and obtained within. We can be happy having spending the precious moments with the loved ones and getting something precious gift from someone special in some moments. But the happiness which is connected with people and physical stuff are not the sustainable happiness. In

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order to have the everlasting happiness we have to dwell it in our mind, in our thought and on our own garden of soul that remains forever with us regardless of changes in the relationship or losing the physical stuff.

We all are predestined into different sectors of comfort and pleasure. Some might have a great relationship and strong bond with the family and loved ones, but some might also have the life that needs to be spent the journey alone. We can't guarantee the someone who has the family and favor will have the sustainable happiness because of the finding of the research; the happiness which is obtained due to the deliberation of something or physical attachment will remain always temporary in life rather and the happiness which is achieved by the inner soul will be everlasting until the death.

I am not discouraging to have the happiness having the life of a beautiful family, friends and loved one. I don't mean to people to be a monk to have the salvation and to get inner happiness, but I am just spreading the mantra of happiness which could be dwelled inside of our memory rather than having something that will make us happy for a while. In order to have the sustainable happiness, we have to be relief from the greediness and spending the monotonous life with the ambition of earning huge money. We could earn million of money by watering our sweat day out the day , but we can't be happy only earning the money because it is just a something that we achieve for physical well-being.

Moral behavior and mental wellbeing are directly connected with our physical wellbeing. If we collect the inner peace and happiness we will be healthy and wealthy, but regardless of property, we could be sick due to lack of inner happiness. If we don't have sustainable happiness we keep on thinking about negative things and keep us angry and mad even with a tiny reason with people.

Sustainable happiness is possible only by the self-practice, motivation and collecting the self-satisfaction of our own. We should  identify the value of being myself despite the shortage of many things in life. We have to give self-respect and worth to our own opinion and if sometimes we want to magnitude our though in the motiveless direction, can leave in that way to sail for a time being. But we should have the ability to return it back to the right track having the excitement and everlasting joy which should be created by inner heart but not by something or someone else.

We know what is importance in our life and have to figure out which is the right things to have the sustainalbe happiness. Digging something dig inside with the hope of something and being dependent with someone in life might provide temporary happiness  in life. We have to find out our own journy of having the happiness which can sustain with us until we live in this earth which is possible only by our own inner soul and thougth but not with someone we spend our time neither it is something we receive as a prize.

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My heart broke down into pieces

My heart broke down into pieces

  5:42:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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Death is only the certain thing that everyone has to embraces one day, but a ten-year-old boy faced his  mother's death due to severe beaten by his own school's teacher. It was such a heart-wrenching

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news that someone posted on facebook had happened in Nepal not far from the capital city Kathmandu.

How  a teacher can accuse someone of  a witchcraft in this age and can beat someone severely to the death. A teacher is someone who should break the darkness of the society and bring the brighter days to his students. But he is involved in such an inhuman activity, it hard to believe that he could drag a woman and tied her hands and leg, fed human sewage and beat her recklessly. I am not so shocked because this happened in Nepal but because the man was a teacher of social science. What kind of educations he was spreading to his students, I am so sad and broke hearing this news.

It was horrible, but not the first time. Many women have lost their lives beaten, burn and killed  by men on the accusation of involving in witchcraft. People in the world have reached to the moon and invented unbelievable inventions, but it is our misfortune Nepalese people are still on the belief of traditional superstition and killing the innocent lives accusing to poor women as a witch for the cause of their illness or misfortune. The government doesn't have that strong law to punish that kind of criminal that's the reason it has been repeating again and again.

I am so saddened and broken because of the innocent children who have lost their mother because of the poor mentality of the people. The teacher had beaten the woman gathering the people around in front of his own school building. It is unbelievable how all the villagers became the witness without
any confrontation. Didn't they have the heart ? No sympathy toward the innocent two children who were bearing their mother hurt in front of their eyes?  I can't believe people are so cruel and heartless in this world and can involve in such an inhuman behavior even at this age of developments.

My nervous system is quite down thinking the whole scenario and the presentation of the little boy who was telling the story of his mother's death. The worthless  people of that village who don't have their heart and no sympathy toward the innocent woman and children they have been living their life only covering the mask of a human being but they are similar to the other animal who don't have the sense of knowledge and thought. And the teacher like him must have cheated to pass the exam or might have brought the highest level of education certificate from somewhere. We can't  expect a teacher who is the director of all the foundations of the tomorrow can involve in such a crime.

Only the education doesn't matter to the people if they don't possess knowledge and sense of humanity. I highly request to all the concern from my blog; the teacher should be punished by the optimum level of the law and shouldn't be allowed to go back to his profession. He is not only criminal now, but he is the enemy of all the human being. We can't expect the children will have a brighter future because of his teaching. He can't be a teacher anymore because this is such a respectable and reputed position, he can never fit again. Please let's have a common understanding we all the people have to confront against the inhuman and cruelty for the sake of all the living beings and social justice. 

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My best friends ever!

My best friends ever!

  6:05:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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My mother and sister are my best friends ever in my life. I experienced many things and met many friends during this span of life but found none in this world who could be closer than them. They are the solo creatures of this world who favor me blindly regardless of the social and other matter because their love is unconditional and pure which is not possible and quite difficult to expect from

My sister Usha Kiran Chongbang from left to my Mom Janak K

the people surrounding. Of course, I exist with someone and with whom I have devoted my life of living, but I definitely say the way of loving and caring is different from the love that they give it to me throughout their core of heart.

They never say anything against my desire and always want my progress, prosperity, comfort, and pleasure from every aspect of life. I can share my pain and pressures with them without and suspect and doubt. I will be guided by their warm love and support and I am there surrounded by them. They always give me moral support, compassion and inspiration to move forward in life. Their experience of life comforts my zone of deserving the life span as what they say;  life is full of compromise and sacrifice. I think my mom who devoted her life just for the sake of her children and family keeping aside her thousands of dreams. My sister also followed the same truth, she sacrificed many things for the sake of her children's and did many things for her sibling as a great sister. She also sacrificed many things for the sake of her younger siblings helping their education and much more.

My parent and my sister have been my greatest strength since my childhood. Even I was quite young I was aware that my father was the head of the family who fed us, kept the family moving nicely providing the requirements of family members. I knew my mother loved me so much so, I cried every time sitting beside her whenever she got sick. I scared if my mother would leave the world, I might have left in the street without love and support. Whenever my father came home late, I was worried if something might have happened to him. Now I remembered how the child's mind was dwelled connecting with the role of family and how important was the role of parents during the childhood.

I was the younger sister so I was allowed not to help her to clean dishes, clean house, and cooking food. I was allowed to go with friends because of the rank of my birth. I feel so guilty for letting my sister doing all of the households alone. I didn't think she was having a hard time , but I was taking the privilege of being her youngest sister.  She was so calm and lovely as long as I remember she never beat me instead I chased her all around the village to beat her taking the slipper on my hands. She could return back and hit me as she was big enough to do so, but instead of slapping on my cheek, she ran away from me in order to save her from my attack. It was so amazing moment that sometimes leads me to feel so shy and guilty, but that was the time when I was really innocent and thought that I was the princes of my house.

Those are the beautiful moments of my childhood. Since my memory, they are always on my side. They are my best friends ever whom I enjoy spending time with them. They are not the friends for sharing the pain and pressure but also the friends of having fun together. If we three  are there together, we don't miss the opportunity of having fun and enjoying the moments. Obviously, I miss my two brothers as well in some  horizons but only my concern at this moment is taking my mom and sister where none can replace their place. They are so calm, peace and loving, I hardly have met the people in life who have loved me in that manner to their children and siblings. I don't remember the madness of my mom, she always calls me 'Nani or Sanu' loving words from the parent. I hardly remember she got mad at me during my childhood and don't remember her slap ever.  They two are the great creatures in my life. Even I don't forget my father role, he was great to me either and to all other children. I am blessed and thankful having you all wonderful people in my life. Thanks!

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Be your own

Be your own

  8:30:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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In many ways, we try to change because of something or someone who don't like what we do and we try to be nice to them and we avoid our thought and willingness what we want to do. We try to be

Chukung Valley Photo by Hemanta Shrestha

something different, even which are against our will, only because we want to be liked by them. If we are in that boat, we are the one what we naturally are not but we are manipulating ourselves hiding the truth.

It is not the way to live the life for anyone or to be nice to the people, but it also doesn't mean to be rude and harmful to them. We have to be ourselves what we are naturally. Respect your own thought and opinion and keep your own way what you want to be yourself. This is t your life which you have owned only one time, so live in your own way what you want to be. Never change your way because people may think you are right. Everything should come from the inner heart and you know more preciously than others what is wrong and what is right by yourself.

I don't mean to be stubborn keeping own opinion and ignoring others value. We have to always carefully analyze the advice that we receive from another opinion as they give us for something that is for the sake of betterment. We have to take people's suggestions and advice, but we should make our own decision and choice because they don't know what we are, what we are exactly looking for and what we think is good for us to do. We have to respect the other opinion and thought. We should know every individual in this world is different. People can't be weird or bad only because of their opinion doesn't fit with us.

I want to be myself and keep on doing what I want to do and what I prefer to be doing regardless of the dislike of the people because I know myself much better than what they know me. I know I shouldn't be a jerk to anybody, it should be the wrong way that hampers to the general or our lifestyle, but definitely I have the right that I can make my own choice, I can decide for being myself and I can stand on my own feet and limbs regardless of what people talk about. We hear a lot about people talk a bad thing in the back, and if someone passes the message to the third person that is so weird. But I strongly recommend you not to listen to the third person and even don't care if people talk you in the back but be ready to tackle if someone hit you in front.

Never change your motive just because you want to be good to the people and expect they will talk about your positive aspects all the times. But be conscious of your own thought and perception. Be persistent at what you are doing and what is your passion is about. Never do for the sake of people or change your way to be said good by people. No one is in this world who have only good commenters. Every coin has two sides as similar we might encounter the people of both kind, some who praise us, respect us and become happy with our progress, but there would be no shortage of people who cross your leg to pull you down and who talk about your flaws and setback as your weakness. Always be yourself, do the things that you desire and have an ambition of doing because this is a life made only for you and you are the only one you can deserve the happiness. Cheers!

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Reflection of activities

Reflection of activities

  8:23:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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We do many things every day, read, write, talk with people, share the pain and pressures and work hard to make sure everything should be alright as let the expectations. Same as other I want to make sure everything should by all right to my family to my child and I want to give 100 percent of my

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attention to my job during my working hour. Even I try very hard to make sure everything to go smoothly, but many things and flaws tease me and I discover that it is the result of my activity what I do.

I have read many stories, novel, and many more dramas and many of them based on the tragic movements. I was not aware of how I was directed by reading those stuff. I could be peace for a while and sometimes I feel like a pity character who face several troubles in life. Everything devasterà in life and the hope was gone down the beneath of the river, but eventually, I take a long breath when they are alright in the end and I become happy  when they reach the top of progress.

Same thing happened today. I was reading a novel on my way to the work, but the character was in the opposite situation than what I am now. Even the stories are very similar to my own life. I am so thrilled to go one by one sentences, assuming I am the one sailing throughout the book where someone has taken my own notion of being the character of me. The subway was so crowded even it was quite stifling and to take a hand away from the body. I squirreled one round and tried to take my hand with my iPhone so I could have access to read my ebook with a lot of effort. I became able to do so as said there is a way when where is will.

I was selling myself being the miserable character of the novel a but I had already reached to my station. I got off at my station and kept on moving my body toward the office, but still the sentiment was moving with the character whom I found the story of my own past and present. After entering the office started to open the system and check my emails and responded to some of them. It's my commitment to the job I try to give 100 percent of my attention to a job, but somewhere I was leaking my thought by myself. My general manager entered into the office and called us for a short meeting. He was talking a lot of things, but I hadn't removed the characters from my mind and thought lately realized I was at work.

Many of friends and relatives think that whether I have been falling in love or my creation of stories are my true story. I couldn't answer them all because they know the truth one day. But my own attitude is diverted to the vast inclination of tragic moments that it comes to my mind. Sometimes I broke myself being on the side of my own character of the story and stop writing. I have stopped writing one of the stories in the middle because it's so difficult to overcome the tragedy that my characters undertones.

I try to be the best for everyone, but due to my activities what I keep on doing and what I prefer to be doing, I am not sure how my friends and relatives are treating me. Sometimes I find myself solely alone in the vast vanity of the creation and thinking taking along myself miserable in the field of the desert. But the most precious part of life is that I love to be doing what I want to do is the right things, but I am careful I won't harm anyone due to my nature and activities of what I prefer to do.

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Life with different colors

Life with different colors

  7:49:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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Life has different colors and we have to try to make it more colorful than what it has now. As the color has its own meaning and we also find in what phase of life we are having now. Every day is precious, every moment is beautiful and everything we are having is alluring that paints our lives every day.

Imagine your life with a rainbow as it possesses all the different colors that beautify its name in the horizon of the sky. Our life also shines in the horizon with the color only it becomes clouded when we manipulate its value and covers with the wrong color. Every moment of life is special for us if

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choose a right and the perfect color to paint the time. We are the artist and all our hands how we concentrate on coloring our life with perfect matching.

If we are good at choosing the right color then we make an art prettier than the other one. Everyone is the artist by itself and paints the life with the knowledge and understanding of choosing the color of life. Some fortunate choose the best color, but some can't make a perfect selection and don't have a knowledge of art. Never lose your hope even though you don't have the right tools to color your life. We are not a perfect artist, but time will teach and make us perfectionist if we keep on trying. Never give a try to create a better world and a better life as what we imagine and dream to be true one day.

Everyone has a setback and flaws and same we are. We have to hear the feedback from our loved ones and try to correct our mistake of the past. Nothing is made perfect in the first try without correction. We might not choose a perfect color of life to make it most attractive art of the world, but we can one day for sure. Focus on only today and pay attention for making everything should go correctly today because it is better to be an excuse rather than to be sorry tomorrow. You can excuse your tomorrow but never be sorry for today. Give your 100 percent for today and try to eat the life with your best effort.

We have to keep in mind that, we could prefer the own choice of color that might not match with the choice of another. Be confident and respect your own thought and mind. Don't compare with other choice and never be unrespectful and put yourself down for making a wrong choice. You might be right because you are you but not someone else. Choose your way to and attempt to do the right things as per your best thought and mind. 

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Success is a reward of Happiness

Success is a reward of Happiness

  7:35:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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We many of us have a misconception that we could be happy in life after we succeed in achieving our goal, but many psychological researchers have discovered that success is a reward of happiness. It means happier people are more successful than unhappy people. The research concludes that

Beautiful nature is the symbol of joy. Photo by Bardhoj Okhrabo

happiness is obtained by positive thinking and perceiving everything in the same way but not achieved by success. Rather in order to be successful in life, happiness plays a great role and divert us to be successful.

The positive thinking is the greatest source of happiness. It is saying that we could see a flower everywhere if we take everything in a positive way, but if we are in the negative mood then  we will see the thorn even to the beautiful garden. Happiness is grown in the field of heart and soul rather in the outdoor surroundings. As a human being, our thought and feeling are guided by many circumstances that surround us every time, but if we harvest the seed of positive thinking in mind, the happiness grows and smile in our garden of  our thought.

It doesn't mean happiness is the sole factor of the successful people of this world. This is one of the factors which plays a crucial role, but while studying the life of the most successful people, many factors are there along with the happiness. Support from the relatives, family background, intelligence, expertise, hard work and much more are there. Considering all of those factors we need to have the surrounding who are supportive, helpful, motivational and influential of doing something more exciting in life. If we are in a slum we couldn't expect support from the people of negative attitudes.  I think it's better to stay away from them but keep in mind if we could help them to divert them, we have to use our resort, but if we need to get reassurance for our movement than better to be kept in touch only with the influential people.

The greatest strength to be positive on most of the time is accepting us and our destiny and allowing the nature to cultivate its own seeds. I don't mean to stay idle, we have to keep in trying to do every day new and have to discover the new knowledge and understanding but it is not guaranteed we are good at everything. At that time we have to accept our mistake and have to learn the lessons for the future reference. We have to learn to give the respect and gratitude to the people if we want to have our life with self-respect and dignity. Identifying very simple and small thing that we encounter every day makes a lot of differences in life.

Definitely, a happy mind and a positive thinking can be a more productive than someone who keeps on feeling bad and takes everything negatively. Our brain is directly connected with how we perceive everything. If we stay happy and take everything in a positive way then our brain performs faster and more effective ways but if we feel distracted and demotivated from doing what we are assigned, it takes longer to complete the job and we couldn't be productive as when we are happy and take everything easily and happily.
Let's try to take everything easily even we could be in slump sometime. Life is not easy but we have to face all the things. We are not alone, everyone's life has gone on the various degree of altitude while crossing the journey. But whatever the circumstances we face, let's live the life with the fullest joy and happiness regardless of our current circumstances and difficulties that embarrass us every moment. Keep in mind everything is temporary. We could grow the happiness inside our own garden perceiving everything positively and excitingly.
Cheers !

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Let's make the room for everyone!

Let's make the room for everyone!

  6:42:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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While commuting to work early in the morning and returning back to home after work, I always encounter some of the things that made me feel that we human being are so selfish in this world we

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just want comfort for the sake of own but never care the other. I have seen many pregnant women , elderly and disable people standing in the train and bus while other healthy men and women turned their face away from them and hold the seat and enjoy listening music and reading books. I feel so bad for the people who just pretend they aren’t aware of all of the scenes and enjoy in their own world.

In fact, we people care just for our own and wants to enjoy the moment but don’t understand how difficult for the pregnant women and elderly people. I didn’t know how tough it was to be the pregnant and commuting in the public transportation before I got pregnant by myself, but I never let them stand if I had occupied the seat when they were close to me. I offer the seat whenever I find those people, but when I am standing and want to ask someone to offer the seat for those who are in need, they just turn away their faces and pretend that they are not hearing what I am asking them. I am surprised for the people in their thinking and why they want to live by themselves without caring the people in need.

I understand, how tired they could be after the work, everyone wants to be seated and take a rest when they are on the train or bus, but the thing is everyone has to understand that the people with special needs are having a harder time than what they have with their well four limbs and the age of bone biting.  People keep on busy on their smart phone, some pretend they were singing along with their iPod, some keep on dancing and some are busy reading or artwork in order to avoid the attention of needy people and scaring to give the seats to them. But I don’t understand how they can have a fun in this world ignoring others ? Why we couldn't give respect to the people and love and care to them who are in trouble. Is this life to live to mean just to be in comfort place all the time or just to enjoy oneself without caring the rest whatever the situation they face?

While returning back to home from work today, the train was completely full and the crowded, it was quite difficult to get inside. I got in with a lot of effort. From the next station; I saw a woman with a little baby holding in her chest with a baby carrier. The baby was so cute and calm even that  crowded room, the mom had held one big diaper bag along with her baby. I felt so pity for her and wanted to ask a seat to a guy who was close to me. The man just pretended that he was busy on listening music and he didn’t pay attention toward what I was asking to him. I felt so bad, but the woman said to me she was okay and leave  him that way. She was smiling even having a hard time. I realized how brave we women are,  we could cultivate the happiness and smile even having a difficult time. I have never seen a man that way, keeping a baby in a chest and holding a big bag in the hand. I felt proud of myself being a woman. Even though we women could be nothing for a man or for the people, but we are the creature  of the human being and we are so great we can divert any kinds of difficulties into opportunities.

I want to request all the people, please let's make the room for everyone whoever are existing in the world. We are all temporary and we are not staying all the time and this world, this air, this water, and nature are made for all the living being not for only for you. We have to share everything equally as possible as we can. I know we can’t share our money, can’t share the foods we have and can’t share our home with everyone, but definitely, we can share the nature, public place, and air to everyone equally as we know this world is not only for us but for everyone. Let’s learn the lesson to respect the people, let’ learn to give gratitude and give a smile even though we can’t give anything to the people. Let’s offer the public place to the people who are in need, we could be the same situation one day. If so, why don’t we think to keep ourselves in their place?  Let's make this world safer and better place for everyone and let's make a room for everyone cheers !

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Predestined Journey (Story Series Part XVII)

Predestined Journey (Story Series Part XVII)

  5:05:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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I was at the farm with Raja as was the schedule of our fieldwork. We had taken the foods for the day time. The sun was very warm and the day was beautiful. Our field was close by a small river and we

Kanchan Janga the third highest Mt of the world by Bardhoj Okhrabo

used to bring the water to drink from the other side of the river. There was a  small bridge over the water.

We had been enjoying working together. It had been an age we hadn't gone to work in the field together after we got our little girl Fungma. That was the first day of our life, Raja was looking happy for finding me back on his side to work together. We talked about our past life, our first night and much more that had remained in our mind as a beautiful memory.

"Kanchhi, do you remember the day when you came to me ? My older cousins teased me  seriously saying you were a beautiful little girl, I had a shame even I knew you were too young to understand those stuff and we weren't mature enough to sleep together" . " I do remember some of the parts, but it has been almost more than a decade now, so I forgot many of those days", I responded to him. We both had a different feeling on that day as like we both were excited about our life like a newlyweds couple. At the mid of the day he said; " Kanchhi, let's eat the food, I will go get the drinking water you prepare foods in the plates by that time". Then he went to the other side of the river.

I prepared the foods in two plates, but he didn't return. I scared a bit, then tried to see him what's going on. I was close by the bridge I saw him on the other side of the river when I was on the bridge the bridge broke and he disappeared. I loudly cried  "oh no".  I was screaming in my dream and awoke with sweats around  my head and body everywhere. It was the fifth night after Raja had left the home to buy the new place where we had dreamed to have our life better and more comfortable. My little girl was sleeping deeply. I scared and couldn't go back to sleep.

I kept on thinking about the meaning of the dream and missed him a lot. There were no facilities of phone and internet like nowadays. I was only pondering myself in the deep sorrow and cultivating myself about the dream and what was going on with him. I tried to sleep hard because  I had many things to do on the next days. I was thinking to go to my home after he would return back. I became suspicious whether something went on to him. I fell in a dilemma if I would tell my dream to my mother in law or not. But at that time, she was the only one to whom I could share my pain. Early in the morning, my mother in law was preparing breakfast in the kitchen and I shared the dream what I had that night.

She worried about the Raja and just pledge with the god, " My god Tagera Ningafubgmang! Please return my son safely to the home". I consoled her not to worry much. Then she said; " yes god is always there with us daughter in law so you too not to worry okay? Everything will be alright, Raja will arrive soon with a great news for us". I nodded and assured her I wasn't worried much because the dream would remain the dream whatever might have come.

We were excited to see his presence on the day and we started to widen our eyes since the morning. But he never showed up until the end of the day. We thought there might have something later on the way or over there to transfer many things. My thought was constantly blowing in the air with several speculations and I kept on awake throughout the night. Though I tried very hard to close my eye, but I became unable to do so only around the early morning.
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The mentor to be satisfied with what we have

The mentor to be satisfied with what we have

  7:16:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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We always feel some shortage in life, even though we seem we have many things with us. No one in this world is perfectly fulfilled and everyone in the world is running behind something to achieve more and better than what we have now. To some extent, it is good to have hunger of achievement

Beautiful Scene of Hong Kong by Bardhok Okhrabo

and to intend to have a better life than what we have now, but sometimes unsatisfactory feeling diverts us to the anxiety and depression which doesn't only kill our skills and abilities but could completely ruin our future. So it's better to be careful about having a hunger in life.

Even we have a lot of stuff at home, our thought keeps on willing to buy this and that. But we never fully satisfied with what we have in our life and keep on spending our sweats cheaply buying all of the things to fill our rooms or space. We have to try to utilize our available resource to the optimum level before spending the money. We could have enough money to buy them, but we have to think that there are numerous people in the world who are living their lives in scarcity to join the hand and mouth. Even our single penny of saving our foods or another resource might play a vital role in their survival. Let's not spend all of the resources for ourselves, but let's think the people who are in trouble and suffering.

One of the common bad habits with most of us is compared with the people who are having the better lifestyle and enjoying the life of luxury. We feel so down comparing with the rich people of this world and forget the value and meaning of our own life. We have to understand that nothing is similar and none of the human being's life runs at the same pace of speed, everyone, and every individual life is different. We are unique in this earth that's the reason we couldn't have the lifestyle as same as other. Comparing our life with other people just make us sad rather let's accept the uniqueness and satisfy with what we have and what we have given to us by nature and god but it doesn't mean we have to be ideal.

The mentor of living the life satisfied with what we have is to simplify the life and be thankful and grateful for what we have now. Many people are suffering from various things in the world. We have to look always the people who are living the life with less resource than what we have. Even the people who don't have the money as of us, having a grateful life. We have to be thankful for whatever we have been provided and given to us by our destiny and luck. Never care other how they are living, but try to maintain your own, which better for you, your  family member and all the human being.

One of the most influential things that matter for the satisfaction is our connection with friends. We might find many people who are negative in attitude and talking about other in the back. We have to be always careful with those people. It is difficult to change the people's perception and attitude rather we have to change by ourselves. I should have the determination of the change that I will be positive and everyone in this world is valuable and precious creatures for me. Let's respect the people even their belief, thought and opinion are different than what we have because as I already said above everyone is different in the world. Someone couldn't be bad only if she/he possesses the different opinion that what I have. We have to make our vision wider only then our mission will be accomplished! Cheers !

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Importance of Emotional Intelligence

Importance of Emotional Intelligence

  9:17:00 PM    Indirasite.com

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Emotional intelligence is an ability of how we perceive, think, understand and manage our emotions with everything that we encounter in a constructive way. How effectively, we communicate with the

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people, how we resolve the conflict and how we overcome the challenges and empathize others all depends on our ability of emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is not acquired by the people by birth, but it is gained and achieved by the learning throughout the different stages in life. It varies with the people depending on the perception and intelligence what an individual might possess. Even one can have learned this emotional intelligence by learning, but how he/she applies effectively in life matters with a great importance in life. Everyone is developed by its own social and family background and someone might have the best intention to develop the relationship with people, but some mightn’t have that kind of intentions and don’t want to take the pressure of learning this intelligence.

It is very important to learn the emotional intelligence in life, not only in the sense of maintaining the relationship with people, but also it gives a great meaning for every aspect of life. It teaches us the self-awareness about what is our strength and weakness?  What are our self-emotions that reflect to the other individual? How to control and maintain self-feelings, behaviors, and emotions and follow the commitments in life to achieve the goal. Along with that,  being as a human and the responsible entity of the society and the world, we should understand the needs, value and concerns of the other people and we should take the responsibility to make the society more comfortable place for all.

Along with this individual and personal life, emotional intelligence is helpful to build a strong professional relationship with the people. Having the knowledge of emotional intelligence help to increase the self-efficiency and results for the better performance. We can also fight with the social complexities and build and excel our career goal not just to perform, but also to influence and motivate the people.

In addition, maintaining the healthy emotions and applying the emotional intelligence in our lives help to reduce the stress that we might suffer from the daily busy schedule. Maintaining and controlling our emotions also nourishes our physical and mental health. Otherwise, we could be sick because of the uncontrolled stress, which can suppress our immune system and also increase the risk of heart attack, stroke, and much other physical disability. Emotional intelligence is one of the greatest and the most important aspect to learn to keep the relationship moving forward and making it alive for the lasting period of time. The end

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