tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44113223649408369522024-03-09T18:46:18.964-08:00IndirasiteIndirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.comBlogger492125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-58933108311523416752024-01-05T19:45:00.000-08:002024-01-05T19:45:00.571-08:00The transformative power of forgiveness: A path to Self-Love and resilience<p> Forgiveness, this word has a profound force that resonates in every facet of our lives, holds the key to unlocking a brighter future and happiness. Human beings are imperfect, we are bound to make mistakes, stumble through missteps, and bear the weight of guilt and regret. However, the ability to forgive oneself is a pivotal step towards self-love and personal growth.</p><p>In the tapestry of our lives, the past year may be embroidered with errors and misjudgments. Yet, dwelling on these blunders only serves to anchor us in a sea of negativity. The remedy lies in forgiving</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjltOwGum_PCt1PB680G_OuEcstJJ9q1nYsXEu-jahMJWR3sWl8Ag0Ba_d3R4hkRX1ersmJibQxUyMWLO1k9l3gRtGstjZwyPwwkwVrR2SvqgIyjD_n6fkXhxujHXwcW81Uwlh6c7eXdLjSbereGs77Y71XATnQvc6qrCKjAFkrOa_-0k7lgafY4DyObUzh/s640/57946_428482133567_1210661_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="480" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjltOwGum_PCt1PB680G_OuEcstJJ9q1nYsXEu-jahMJWR3sWl8Ag0Ba_d3R4hkRX1ersmJibQxUyMWLO1k9l3gRtGstjZwyPwwkwVrR2SvqgIyjD_n6fkXhxujHXwcW81Uwlh6c7eXdLjSbereGs77Y71XATnQvc6qrCKjAFkrOa_-0k7lgafY4DyObUzh/w300-h400/57946_428482133567_1210661_n.jpg" width="300" /></a></div>ourselves, shedding the burden of guilt, and allowing self-love to blossom. By embracing forgiveness, we pave the way for a renewed focus on our career, happiness of our family, and life goals.<p></p><p>Similarly, the external world may not always treat us kindly. People, intentionally or unintentionally, may inflict wounds upon us through hurtful words, actions, or betrayal. The natural response might be to carry the weight of resentment, worry, and anger. However, the true liberation lies in the art of forgiveness.</p><p>By forgiving those who have caused us pain, we break free from the chains of negativity that bind us. The act of forgiveness doesn't condone the wrongdoing but rather sets us on a path to resilience and strength. Dwelling on past grievances only serves to dampen our spirits, leaving us in a perpetual state of sadness. In contrast, forgiveness allows us to remain focused, happy, emotionally robust and resilient.</p><p><br /></p><p>Therefore, I implore you to cultivate the habit of forgiving yourself and others. It is a profound and transformative act that holds the potential to heal wounds, mend relationships, and foster personal well-being. In the grand tapestry of life, forgiveness weaves a vibrant thread that enhances the fabric of our existence. Embrace the liberating power of forgiveness, and watch as it shapes a brighter, more joyous future for yourself and those around you.</p><p>This is my new years resolutions and I am forgiving myself for my mistakes that I made in the past and forgiving the outer forces who intentionally hurt me or made the mistake. This results me to hold my happiness alive and to foster and grow my career in the days to come. </p><p>Presented in capacity building virtual workshop</p><p>01/05/2024</p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-70819029205067806882023-08-27T15:53:00.001-07:002023-08-27T15:53:38.070-07:00A Canadian Adventure<p>Date 08/27/2023</p><p>Our long-awaited vacation had finally arrived, and this year, we chose Canada as our destination. The main reason for this choice was the arrival of my sister's little one earlier in the year. I was eager to see how my nephew was doing and also to reconnect with an old friend who had moved to Canada after leaving the United States.</p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiyNkJOZPmNlhXTG3CJqMyhRZZwYLIL8USNmS06t-RYjtVq7AH4eq6DOf4bI403LgVZHg_rn5KKGRapHmW7eW0vAQughPs08QsZDA8fkcAJjzoO2GPnpCV1JKZcsZjAFHdBV4whzWh_1Al3VOPZccRHUwSxT67G_1ZubKWBgwxWv2Td4VqVtUNur6vFWiwJ/s2016/IMG_2509.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2016" data-original-width="1512" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiyNkJOZPmNlhXTG3CJqMyhRZZwYLIL8USNmS06t-RYjtVq7AH4eq6DOf4bI403LgVZHg_rn5KKGRapHmW7eW0vAQughPs08QsZDA8fkcAJjzoO2GPnpCV1JKZcsZjAFHdBV4whzWh_1Al3VOPZccRHUwSxT67G_1ZubKWBgwxWv2Td4VqVtUNur6vFWiwJ/w480-h640/IMG_2509.jpg" width="480" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Shorebreeze Lake view</td></tr></tbody></table><br /><p><br /></p><p>Upon our arrival in Canada, we were greeted by the stunning view of downtown Toronto from our vacation home. The place was not only nice but also boasted breathtaking views that left us in awe. We wasted no time capturing these moments with photos and simply relishing the joy of being in a new place. After our travel fatigue had settled, we took a well-deserved rest to prepare for the adventures that awaited us.</p><p><br /></p><p>Our first full day in Canada was dedicated to exploring the iconic CN Tower in Toronto, a historic landmark that never fails to amaze. It was a day filled with family fun and unforgettable moments against the backdrop of this towering structure.</p><p><br /></p><p>On the third day, we embarked on an excursion to Niagara Falls. The sheer power and beauty of the falls were a sight to behold, leaving us all in awe of nature's grandeur. The memory of that day will forever be etched in our minds.</p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7bqU-IH_iz6KSLDeXJMhLtSo_V_Ini20Z5-8Q-8oKYNTpJX-ovlglXKQDLmJyks8R55--CZoOm3ro7Eyf21jSGIxZiUfrjKVxNbryGmFAS0f-V0YJ9yO8rYCizdWcIzUORbP2CT8BIRrUHmcHgTuxua1vmJd5RHG9dPhZzBgWMg1AZY3p9ZMgnGpd8JVQ/s414/369916040_10159663484442322_2865053220606418266_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="414" data-original-width="406" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7bqU-IH_iz6KSLDeXJMhLtSo_V_Ini20Z5-8Q-8oKYNTpJX-ovlglXKQDLmJyks8R55--CZoOm3ro7Eyf21jSGIxZiUfrjKVxNbryGmFAS0f-V0YJ9yO8rYCizdWcIzUORbP2CT8BIRrUHmcHgTuxua1vmJd5RHG9dPhZzBgWMg1AZY3p9ZMgnGpd8JVQ/w628-h640/369916040_10159663484442322_2865053220606418266_n.jpg" width="628" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">At Niagara Falls</td></tr></tbody></table><br /><p><br /></p><p>The fourth day was reserved for a visit to the Toronto Aquarium and a stroll through the vibrant streets of Chinatown. One of the highlights of the day was trying out Chinese hot pot soup, a unique dining experience where we had to prepare the meal ourselves. It was a delightful adventure for our taste buds.</p><p><br /></p><p>Our fifth day in Canada was a serene one. We decided to explore the natural beauty close to our vacation home by taking a leisurely walk along the lakeside. Being surrounded by the tranquility of nature was a welcome contrast to the bustling city life we had experienced earlier in the trip. In the afternoon, we treated our kids to a visit to the CNE (Canadian National Exhibition), where they reveled in a multitude of games and fun activities. We adults had our share of enjoyment too, spending some quality time in a bar sipping Spanish iconic DG and other drinks.</p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4D5zvJyLGfYuEPC_2XqKVPnBZcyW4G2vCUCrykkoXyTWt70eixdHzBLqzvGArAO6xjQVuU9zcIci0rZYQ3LB9MYuv52lL8NhYHlnu5h-QPQyTUMzXKI3CeaWcxNPxdv5nAv45KOyTYmC99kk9gqp48kX0ZwDnSwCw1l8g1QS9MDr3gHLBF2dsSBwRwOng/s414/Chanda%20home.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="414" data-original-width="414" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4D5zvJyLGfYuEPC_2XqKVPnBZcyW4G2vCUCrykkoXyTWt70eixdHzBLqzvGArAO6xjQVuU9zcIci0rZYQ3LB9MYuv52lL8NhYHlnu5h-QPQyTUMzXKI3CeaWcxNPxdv5nAv45KOyTYmC99kk9gqp48kX0ZwDnSwCw1l8g1QS9MDr3gHLBF2dsSBwRwOng/w640-h640/Chanda%20home.jpg" width="640" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Meeting with Chanda</td></tr></tbody></table><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><br /><p><br /></p><p>Though our vacation in Canada was relatively short, it was undeniably remarkable. We had the chance to bond as a family, witness breathtaking landmarks, savor unique cuisine, and create lasting memories. It was a trip that left us yearning for more adventures in this beautiful country, and we departed with hearts full of gratitude and a promise to return someday.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgCyF8Jr0E16SQxE1dwd9AgACqrhpyljGoZTbazoVAohHUA0HMm7WTQoEZBs7Sl131Y6-0Nx7XlnI9MIKygVD6QdJjcElW1Hiu-Mar5Kz81h3tlKrTdI0EiOrxZPJEqGuYajpFLaoYOA8w9jV1g_y12S825pUetIwcnZwEXig1Bl4sTAEkZnHZqW-33QyZx/s414/Niagara%20Falls.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="414" data-original-width="414" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgCyF8Jr0E16SQxE1dwd9AgACqrhpyljGoZTbazoVAohHUA0HMm7WTQoEZBs7Sl131Y6-0Nx7XlnI9MIKygVD6QdJjcElW1Hiu-Mar5Kz81h3tlKrTdI0EiOrxZPJEqGuYajpFLaoYOA8w9jV1g_y12S825pUetIwcnZwEXig1Bl4sTAEkZnHZqW-33QyZx/w640-h640/Niagara%20Falls.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-52230460225188656492023-05-12T18:18:00.005-07:002023-05-12T18:19:13.538-07:00The Love of My Motherland<p>I have been living in the United States for the past 13 years, I often find myself feeling a deep sense of longing for my home country of Nepal. However, this feeling is often accompanied by a sense of sadness and frustration, as I am constantly bombarded by news of the many injustices and tragedies that occur there on a daily basis. </p><p>Most troubling news comes that women in Nepal are often victimized by the patriarchal system that dominates them in the society. Whether it is through violence, discrimination, or other forms of oppression, it seems that women are always bearing the brunt of society's inequalities. This is especially</p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYL2Z4t5NgGr78SeYyYM78JvP1IPjFfSJ-YeHyk-LrQEjbvehHX02U0AgOwqTYoNOqgz4uGzOA-nwP5NKELWHCnwcBsUq-CuqGxVGvCG8s9aTBiiQqOXO-q17KmX2y66dDJrSdX67FE8xt_rjE8rZOjbRYe5GGHYNlHQafIVD6wHt-vuvdZ-kcihfB0Q/s720/Shree%20Narayani%20Secondary%20School%20Shanghu-4,%20Tpalejejung.jpg" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="720" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYL2Z4t5NgGr78SeYyYM78JvP1IPjFfSJ-YeHyk-LrQEjbvehHX02U0AgOwqTYoNOqgz4uGzOA-nwP5NKELWHCnwcBsUq-CuqGxVGvCG8s9aTBiiQqOXO-q17KmX2y66dDJrSdX67FE8xt_rjE8rZOjbRYe5GGHYNlHQafIVD6wHt-vuvdZ-kcihfB0Q/w400-h400/Shree%20Narayani%20Secondary%20School%20Shanghu-4,%20Tpalejejung.jpg" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Sanghu, Taplejung</td></tr></tbody></table><br /> disheartening when one of the educated women lost her own life by her own effort since her boy friend denied to marry her after several years of relationship. This is just an example and there are numerous hidden horrible stories about women destiny in Nepal. Women are often tasked with the biggest share of responsibility for both the outside and the family, even as they are denied many of the same opportunities and privileges afforded to their male counterparts.<p></p><p><br /></p><p>In recent years, the situation has only seemed to be getting worse. There was another tragic story about a woman who died from complications after being forced to undergo multiple abortions in an attempt to conceive a son. These kinds of stories leave me feeling deeply saddened and frustrated, and make me wonder what can be done to bring about change so women shouldn't die while developing into the fetus just for being a female.</p><p>Of course, these issues are not unique to Nepal and Nepali community. Even among the Nepali community in the United States, there are many women who face significant challenges in their daily lives, often as a result of discrimination or other forms of prejudice. They must work multiple jobs just to make their family keep on going. It is always difficult for them to balance the demands of work, family, and keep their career going on.</p><p><br /></p><p>Despite all these challenges, I am always hopeful. I believe that by working together and supporting one another, we can create a better future for all women, both in Nepal and around the world. This will require us to be vigilant and proactive in addressing gender inequality wherever it occurs, and to be willing to speak out against injustice and oppression whenever we see it. </p><p>Education is one of the most vital necessities for women in order to thrive and succeed. However, it is not just any kind of education that women require. Women need an education that not only empowers them to stand on their own feet but also makes them emotionally, mentally, and physically strong. This type of education equips women with the tools to face any situation, regardless of its magnitude or nature, and to challenge the gender-based norms and structures that often hold them back.</p><p><br /></p><p>With such an education, women are able to build the courage necessary to confront the challenges that come their way, particularly those imposed by their male counterparts. They become better equipped to fight for their rights, to resist oppression, and to demand equality in all aspects of life. Ultimately, an education that empowers women is the foundation for a more just and equitable society, one in which women are able to fulfill their potential and contribute meaningfully to their families, communities, and the world at large.</p><p><br /></p><p>Ultimately, my sincere hope is that by sharing my own experiences and insights, I can contribute to raising awareness about the challenges and issues that women face in Nepal and in the Nepali diaspora community. Through our collective efforts and solidarity, we can work towards creating a more just and equitable world for all. Therefore, I humbly request your support and cooperation in this mission to empower women and promote equality, so that together we can create a better world for everyone..</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-85857603270267030082023-05-02T15:57:00.001-07:002023-05-02T16:13:57.823-07:00Empowering women by emotional strength and empathy could be a key to overcome societal pressures <p>The recent tragedy in Nepal has left the world reeling with shock and sadness. A highly educated nurse, who had dedicated her life to serving others, took her own life after her boyfriend refused to marry her due to societal pressures. This heartbreaking incident is a reminder of the challenges that women face in societies where traditional expectations still hold a great deal of sway and it is hard to overcome for the women in Nepal.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5TbEwFGYKFOUZnRkRAZbs2J5ANRPpNTgOetKK26Pt0L6DCYUe34AE2TcVKGi49nyjGWUJVqbARokMGtdipDiAj-5subWtokfX8VfakcXNpZWApCNO3Mj-LHDIOZYcTY6hK2Ls-93_u_EDgZY07sbmTx1wfq-srSjoo42JPD8GB9qr2BmM_Qj1jMIzWg/s630/Women%20for%20justice.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="277" data-original-width="630" height="176" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5TbEwFGYKFOUZnRkRAZbs2J5ANRPpNTgOetKK26Pt0L6DCYUe34AE2TcVKGi49nyjGWUJVqbARokMGtdipDiAj-5subWtokfX8VfakcXNpZWApCNO3Mj-LHDIOZYcTY6hK2Ls-93_u_EDgZY07sbmTx1wfq-srSjoo42JPD8GB9qr2BmM_Qj1jMIzWg/w400-h176/Women%20for%20justice.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p>The victim of this tragedy was a highly educated nurse who was living her life serving as a healthcare field. Despite her accomplishments, she was unable to overcome the societal pressure to conform to traditional gender roles and expectations. Her boyfriend was a doctor by himself who had been in a relationship with her for five years, refused to marry her because his parents did not approve of her as a daughter-in-law.</p><p>The couple had already aborted two pregnancies, evidence of their love for each other, yet they were unable to overcome the social stigma surrounding their relationship. This tragic incident highlights the importance of emotional strength, mental health, and the willingness to fight against societal pressures in order to live a fulfilling life and also the dominating characters of men.</p><p><br /></p><p>Although education is essential in empowering women and providing them with opportunities, it is not enough to combat the deeply ingrained patriarchal attitudes that continue to limit their potential. Women need to be supported not only in their education and career goals, but also in their personal relationships and their right to make their own choices.</p><p>It is crucial for societies to recognize the emotional toll that societal pressures can take on women and work towards addressing them. This means challenging traditional gender roles and expectations, promoting gender equality, and providing support and resources for women facing difficult situations.</p><p>While numerous non-governmental and governmental organizations work tirelessly towards gender equality, it is clear that there needs to be a better way to assist women and prevent such tragedies from occurring. One approach that may be effective is to empower women with emotional strength and empathy.</p><p>Emotional intelligence is a crucial tool that can help women develop a stronger sense of self-worth and self-love, which can enable them to overcome societal pressures and stand up for themselves. Empathy is especially important because it allows women to understand and relate to the experiences of others, regardless of their social status or background. It enables them to connect with other women and build supportive communities, where they can discuss issues, seek help, and offer support to one another.</p><p>It is also essential to remember that not all women have access to education, and they face an even greater challenge in navigating societal pressures. Therefore, it is important to reach out to them and provide them with the necessary tools and resources to overcome these challenges. Each one has a right to live and enjoy their life equally and fairly.</p><p><br /></p><p>In conclusion, while non-governmental and governmental organizations continue to work towards gender equality, we must also focus on empowering women with emotional strength and empathy. By doing so, we can help women develop the tools they need to navigate difficult situations and overcome societal pressures. Ultimately, this will create a better world for all women, where they can feel safe, valued, and empowered to achieve their full potential. We must work towards a society that recognizes the worth of every individual, regardless of gender, and provide them with the tools they need to succeed. Not only the organization there are many individuals who wants to do something to the society needs to join the hands to find the appropriate tools that really eradicate such problem,</p><p>As a women's rights activist, I urge everyone to join hands with me in the mission to create a safer and better world for women everywhere. It's disheartening to see how women are losing their lives due to the dominance of patriarchal and traditional societal norms that limit their freedom and potential that we need to break it and let the women out from that ceiling.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-5258398133466253332022-10-30T10:09:00.011-07:002022-10-30T10:38:36.138-07:00 The Third Convention of FIWNA elects Indira Chongbang as the president<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjLZAV1RiGj0aGAA8jND77_GKAq-6XbdAR8eRmBGYok0oF3-RfFiLUNY43rRTSzkI1GrvVGcAh-o-DEFWcSv0CFS5wFmZiFsqYrtYxCNto0H1nlOWWqvZmksl9aPZpS3so-rkiV9Sld8lwglWFDSTOi_-qJuWBvKaf26Gj6sVPl6ua2k637IXtO8aBang/s4032/IMG-8426.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4032" data-original-width="3024" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjLZAV1RiGj0aGAA8jND77_GKAq-6XbdAR8eRmBGYok0oF3-RfFiLUNY43rRTSzkI1GrvVGcAh-o-DEFWcSv0CFS5wFmZiFsqYrtYxCNto0H1nlOWWqvZmksl9aPZpS3so-rkiV9Sld8lwglWFDSTOi_-qJuWBvKaf26Gj6sVPl6ua2k637IXtO8aBang/w480-h640/IMG-8426.jpg" width="480" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Indira Chongbang</td></tr></tbody></table><p><br /></p><p>A new working committee of 19 members has been formed under the chairmanship of Indira Chongbang who is one of the founders of this organization from the third convention of Federation of Indigenous Women of Nepal in America (FIWNA)</p><br /><p>The other office bearers are Maina Bajracharya as Vice President, Indu Lamichhane as Secretary General, Nima Gole as Secretary, Barmaya Pun as Treasurer, Shubhadra Limbu as Co-Treasurer and there are 13 other members in the working committee.</p><p><br /></p><p>FIWNA organized the third Convention and Deusibhailo ( Tihar Celebration) programs jointly on the same day. In the first session of the program which was the opening session, the representatives of various organizations of Nepalese community gave their greetings for the convention and assured their togetherness with FIWNA. Speaking on behalf of the chief guest, Maya Lama, the vice president of the Federation of Indigenous People of Nepal in America (FIPNA) said that she was very happy that the women had moved forward in this way and expressed her commitment to continue working together in the future. She added; “ We are so lucky for these changes looking back how our mothers were by that time”<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmRPgtVjDpq_gk8xNThUyI3uo5_87POcVlOd77jR5K4rX95wpR9lM4Nbj7nKmnzPg8D4gFAQFScKZqcPY48Y_g-0rUroUqrsOZ1xQkvmRJWYxs32VOHOrpPJtn_riu_n8ppwxVUPQGsCxr_yyAxyNtzRBgNV-qy339Mf8YZtgWDjN7UvvgDSZPaEmcmg/s1600/27413.jpg" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1600" height="300" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmRPgtVjDpq_gk8xNThUyI3uo5_87POcVlOd77jR5K4rX95wpR9lM4Nbj7nKmnzPg8D4gFAQFScKZqcPY48Y_g-0rUroUqrsOZ1xQkvmRJWYxs32VOHOrpPJtn_riu_n8ppwxVUPQGsCxr_yyAxyNtzRBgNV-qy339Mf8YZtgWDjN7UvvgDSZPaEmcmg/w400-h300/27413.jpg" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">FIWNA 3rd Convention and Deusi 2022</td></tr></tbody></table></p><br /><p>Similarly, speaking on behalf of the special guest in the program, Keshab Rai, Nepal Goodwill Tourism Ambassador for New York States highlighted the history of FIWNA since its beginning and appreciated the status of its height that is possible with the teamwork and togetherness. As a goodwill ambassador, he expressed his best interest to cooperate with FIWNA in the coming days and committed his support will continue in every step moving forward to its future.</p><p><br /></p><p>On the same occasion, Luisang Waiba Tamang, Chairman of the Elmhurst Hospital Advisory Board, stressed that the organization should change the way it has been doing so far and should gain the organization’s new height strongly. Waiba also promised to provide all possible support for FIWNA and will ensure to provide available information he has. Likewise, Indra Tamang, President of the Board of Trustees of the Tamang Society of America, also expressed his commitment to support this organization, expressing his wishes for continuous progress and prosperity.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLULe6BfgVrr51glat5g2aiGoZnW_QriHntG8gCGv2dxPdGp5tvnwA8jVxBY3M91MZlG49FaYspDvALdqbeslaO9ymQ0_FC4pZox-bbb4qKJyq-Tndn7ogFjlPVkjy260OJwphQmIVGqzUb5X2sxHIcxdk_J6ZpPE9WcMdIlphW4b9tWKe7r8euanW7A/s1600/IMG_8460.JPG" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1600" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLULe6BfgVrr51glat5g2aiGoZnW_QriHntG8gCGv2dxPdGp5tvnwA8jVxBY3M91MZlG49FaYspDvALdqbeslaO9ymQ0_FC4pZox-bbb4qKJyq-Tndn7ogFjlPVkjy260OJwphQmIVGqzUb5X2sxHIcxdk_J6ZpPE9WcMdIlphW4b9tWKe7r8euanW7A/w320-h240/IMG_8460.JPG" width="320" /></a></div><p></p><p><br /></p><p>The program was represented by Machche Gurung, the Vice President of Nepalese Journalist Association in America (NEAJA), , Shanti Jirel , the President of Jirel Society of America, Binita Tamang, the president of Tamang Samaj of America, Deepak Chaudhary, the Vice President of Tharu and Friends Society of America , etc.</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>In the program of the first session, the then President Sangini Ranamar said that the history and establishment of this organization has played a vital role in preserving the identity and existence of the indigenous people of Nepal in America and she expressed the possibility that the indigenous women in the world can move forward by showing solidarity together. Also, she expressed her gratitude to the individuals who have provided essential support and assistance to bring this organization to its current status and urged the new working committee to support and assist in the same way in the future.<p></p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7FLe3-RDFULtgz1wHA3PSbiuo3qN1PAIoaYZz2bGnyDB1Wn9SCGxCQAQsMaaH_0P2ZgvtibKF5F4Oo83gvK_w6oy-ITyBtmn6PsA1ZNeL4w13x_c1fRw7uAbDGTzX6GVX2W0KxTKmIvKY__iSuk0_DejtIc_lWzm-qFT0r-GsX9_R4iCctdIKdehC9w/s1600/IMG_8465.JPG" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1600" height="300" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7FLe3-RDFULtgz1wHA3PSbiuo3qN1PAIoaYZz2bGnyDB1Wn9SCGxCQAQsMaaH_0P2ZgvtibKF5F4Oo83gvK_w6oy-ITyBtmn6PsA1ZNeL4w13x_c1fRw7uAbDGTzX6GVX2W0KxTKmIvKY__iSuk0_DejtIc_lWzm-qFT0r-GsX9_R4iCctdIKdehC9w/w400-h300/IMG_8465.JPG" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Newly elected team of FIWNA</td></tr></tbody></table><br /><p><br /></p><p>In the program, the secretary general of the organization Bandana Rai presented the progress report of FIWNA ( 2017-2022), while the treasurer of the organization Indu Lamichhane presented the financial report ( 2017-2022), of the organization.</p><p>Indira Chongbang, the former vice president and newly elected president of the organization, expressed her sincere gratitude to all the supporting personalities and organizations. She expressed her commitment to use her whole body and mind to achieve the goal of this organization by correcting the shortcomings of the past. Chongbang is also a journalist and has worked in different community-based organizations while back in the motherland Nepal.</p><p>After the first phase of the program and election program, and grouping Deusi Bhaili program was completed. The Bhailo program, which started with Bhailin songs reflecting the originality of Nepal, ended with various dances and entertainment.</p><p><br /></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><br /><p></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><br /><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><br />Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-79086267601452576042022-10-09T17:54:00.003-07:002022-10-10T17:56:47.643-07:00 कहॅा होला त्यो खुसी, कहॅा होला त्यो आहा ?<p><br /></p><div dir="auto">आहा फलना त अमेरिका छ है कत्ति मजा होला, फलाना त अस्ट्रेलियामा पो छ कति झकास होला ? नेपालमा रहॅदा र बस्दा सुनिरहने बाक्यॅासहरू हुन् यिनीहरू । तर जब अमरिका पुगे अनि यहॅा सुनिने ती आहाहरू अर्कै भए । अहिले म सुन्ने गर्छु त्यो आहा अमेरिकामा होइन त्यो त नेपालमै रहेछ । अहिले नेपालमा दशै तिहारको माहोल छ, बाहिर बस्नेहरूको सबैको नत छुट्टी छ, नत भेटघाटगर्ने अवसर नै त्यति सहज छ ।त्यसैले उनीहरू भनिरहेका छन् आहा नेपालमा कति रमाइलो, त्यतिका दिन छुट्टी, बाफरेबाफ बालापनमा गरेका ति रमाइला दिनहरू अब सबैको दिमागमा हुर्रिन थाल्छन्, छताछुल्ल भएर यत्रतत्र मडारिन थाल्छन् । अनि त साथीभाइ र आफन्तहरूसॅग फोनबाट त्यही रमाइलो दिनहरूको सम्झना गर्यो आफुलाई आफै चित्त बुझायो त्यो सिवाय केही उपाया हुन्न । <table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNa_ZMCfLgZgEPrP-_56YbwPNACq21GeDDYDHdv1SCBV8XfnSDub9mzStTlQHxxZCRsoWKECEfpiMRb3i9S_ZY0FUu6U_0zKGWA5lP3ST95P9vGpMVkUiBgKF5DhmRs4i0SADuSWfvcD56sOKKhI8hA042utvgIL8nk3ci1CAtMS3NHXJYZ8WORf540Q/s453/IMG_8249.JPG" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="453" data-original-width="453" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNa_ZMCfLgZgEPrP-_56YbwPNACq21GeDDYDHdv1SCBV8XfnSDub9mzStTlQHxxZCRsoWKECEfpiMRb3i9S_ZY0FUu6U_0zKGWA5lP3ST95P9vGpMVkUiBgKF5DhmRs4i0SADuSWfvcD56sOKKhI8hA042utvgIL8nk3ci1CAtMS3NHXJYZ8WORf540Q/w400-h400/IMG_8249.JPG" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">By Indira Chongbang</td></tr></tbody></table><br /></div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">भनाइको तात्पर्य हामी जहिले पनि खुसीको खोजिमा भौतारिरहेका हुन्छौ । सदैब यस्तै लाग्छ त्यो ठॅाउमा पुग्न सक्ने मानिसहरू कति सुखी छन् होलान्, उनिहरूको जीवन कति आन्नददायी होला, आफुपनि त्यो ठॅाउमा पुग्न पाए अवश्य धेरैभन्दा धेरै खुसी हुन्थे होला । त्यस्तै सोचाइ प्रायको दिमागमा रहन्छ । अरूले गरेको काम बाहिरबाट हेर्दा सॅधै रमाइलो लाग्छ, आहा लाग्छ अनि आफ्नो चाहि जहिलेपनि बोरिङ, अल्यासपूर्ण अनि अहिले नै छाडेर हिंडौ जस्तो । हो अनि आफ्नो जीवन पनि हामीलाई त्यस्तै लाग्छ । आफ्ना जीवनका नराम्रा पाटाहरूमात्र आफ्नो अॅाखावरिपरि घुमिरहन्छ, आफ्नो जीवनको तिक्तताहरूमात्र दिमागमा सलबलाइरहन्छन् तर जब अरूलाई हेर्छौ उनीहरूको जीवन फेरि आहा नै लाग्छ । आहा त्यो फलानाले त कति धेरै प्रगति गरिसक्यो, घर किन्यो, जग्गा किन्यो, महॅगो गाडी किन्यो कति हो कति प्रगति पनि । यस्तै उस्तै अरूले गरेका अरूसॅग भएका समानहरू मात्र राम्रा लाग्छन् ।</div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">त्यस्तै हामीलाई अरूको परिवारमात्र सुखी लाग्छ, खुसी लाग्छ अनि पूर्ण लाग्छ । अर्काको परिवार साथसाथमा हिंडेको देख्दा, अर्काले हॅासेको देख्दा, एकछिन रमाएको देख्दा उनीहरूको जीवन कति भरिपूर्ण लाग्छ, हराभरा लाग्छ तर यसो आफ्नो जीवन हेर्यो, आफ्नो परिवार हेर्यो सबैतिर नराम्रा लाग्छन् । अनि त नेपालमा बस्ने मानिसहरू अन्य देशमा रहेकाहरू चिल्लो कारमा हिढेका फोटोहरू देखेर, पिकनिकमा छमछम नाचेको देखेर अनि समुद्रको किनारमा बरालिएर रमाइलो गर्दै तस्बिरहरू लिएको देखेर सोच्ने गर्छन् आहा तिनीहरूको जिन्दगी क्या गज्जब! तर उनीहरूलाई के थाहा त्यही बाहिरी देख्ने आवरणभित्रपनि अरूले सोचेको जस्तो अनि देखेको जस्तो आहाहरू मात्र नभएर अनेकन् पीडाहरू छन्, ब्यथा र कथाहरू लुकेका छन् भन्ने ।</div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">वास्तबमा मान्छेको जात नै सॅधै असन्तोकी अनि सॅधै बिलौनाका पात्रहरू हॅुदारहेछन् । आफ्नै देशमा रहुन्जेलसम्म कहिले बाहिर जाउ भन्ने जौडधुपमै ब्यस्त तर जब बाहिर गएर त्यही ठॅाउमा जीवन सुरू हुन्छ फेरि आफ्नै ठॅाउ, आफ्नै गॅाउघर फर्कौ फर्कौ लाग्ने । हो त्यसैले अर्काको जीवन सुन्दर देख्ने यी अॅाखाहरू, अर्काको जीवन सुखी ठान्ने हाम्रा मनहरू सबै भ्रम हुन् । अरूकोमात्र राम्रो देख्ने आफ्नो सोचहरू सबै भ्रम हुन् । अर्काको बगैचा हरियाली देख्ने तर आफ्नो सॅधै खोक्रो र निरस देख्ने सबै आफै भित्रिका कमजोरी अॅाखाहरू हुन् । किनकि बाहिर देखिने जतिपनि सुन्दर बस्तुहरू छन् तिनीहरूभित्रपनि त्यस्तै अन्य ब्यबधानहरू हुन्छन् ।</div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">त्यसैले वास्तबिक जीवनमा आहा खोज्ने अर्थात खुसीको खोजि न कुनै बाहिरी चिजको प्राप्तिबाट हुन्छ न त कुनै देखावटी र बनावटी सम्बन्धहरूबाटै हुन्छ । सुन्दर बगैचामा ढकमक्क फुलैफुलको बिचमा मुस्कुराहट छर्ने तस्बिर किताब पुस्तकमा छर्दैमा त्यो ब्याक्तिको जीवन त्यति नै शुन्दर छ भनेर दाबी गर्ने मिल्दैन । सुटबुट लगाएर चटक्क परेर अफिसमा कम्युटर चलाउॅदै गरेको फोटो फेसबुकको भित्तामा पोस्टाउॅदैमा उसको जीवन आहा हॅुदैन । सॅधै अंकमाल गरेर हॅासिरहेको फोटो पोस्टाउॅदैमा उनीहरूको सम्बन्ध कहिल्यै छुट्नै नसक्ने कति प्रगाड, कति गाडा भन्ने अवश्यपनि हॅुदैन । </div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">यसरी सबैकुरालाई नकरात्मकरूपलेमात्र ब्याख्या गर्दा हेर्ने अॅाखा नै नराम्रो जस्तो लाग्न सक्छ । यध्यपी यो कुनै टिकाटिप्पणी नभएर वास्तविकरूपमा भोग्दै आएका तितो यथार्छहरू हुन् । त्यसैले कुनैपनि सुखको अनुभुति अर्थात खुसी न त कुनै ठॅाउमा पुगेर हुन्छ न त कुनै भौतिक चिजको प्राप्तिबाटै हुन्छ । असन्तोकि मान्छे एकको प्राप्तिपछि फेरि दोश्रो केहीचिजको प्राप्तिकोलागि भौतारिरहेको हुन्छ । आफ्नो जीवनलाई आहा बनाउनलाई अर्थात खुसी जीउनको लागि अर्काको आखाले देख्ने आहा होइन आफ्नो मनले देख्ने आहाको जीवन आफैले सृजना गर्नुपर्छ । त्यसका लागि जतिसुकै तपस्या र लगाब किन नगरौ तर यसको प्राप्ति सॅधै कठिन हुन्छ जबसम्म हामी आफ्नो मनलाई आफै बदल्न सक्दैनौ अनि अनाहटमा हामी सॅधै भौतारिरहन्छौ ।आफ्नै मनलाई जब शान्ति आफैबाट हुन्छ तबमात्र हामी हाम्रो मनको अॅाखालाइ बदल्न सक्छौ । त्यसका लागि आफुसॅग जे छ त्यसैमा रमाउनु सिक्नुपर्छ । </div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">जीवनमा नाम, दाम र पैसा भन्दा पनि सार्थक जीवन जीउनु हो, खुसी भएर, रमेर बॅाच्नुमा जति आनन्द न त कुनै बिलासिताबाट मिल्छ न त कुनै पैसाबाट नै किन्न सकिन्छ । त्यसैले त्यसको यो छ, उसको यो छ, उ त्यॅहा छ आदि इत्यादिले अरुको खुसीमात्र खोजिरहॅदा आफ्नो खुशिको कायापलट भएको थाहा नै हुन्न । त्यसैले अरूसॅग के छ भन्नुभव्दा आफुसॅग के छ त्यसको उच्च मुल्यॅाकन आफै गर्नुपर्छ ।</div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">जुन परिवारमा माया, प्रेम र सद्भभाव कायम हुन्छ, एक अर्काको भावनाको कदर हुन्छ संसार त्यही स्वर्ग बन्छ । दुनियॅाले देखेको खुसी अर्थात आहा संसारमा त्यो भन्दा बढी कहि हुन्न जॅहा परिवारको माया र साथ हुन्छ, जॅहा माया र ममताको बास हुन्छ, मनमा शान्ति र सहानुभुति हुन्छ यथार्थ संसार त्यही स्वर्ग बन्छ । त्यसैले खुसी र आहामा कोही भौतारिरहनु भएको छ, छटपटाईरहनु भएको छ भने सोच्नुहोस त के त्यो तॅपाईको आफ्नो पकडमा छैन होला त ? दुःखी भएर या त रोएर जीवन कहिल्यै अघि बढ्न सक्दैन त्यसैले कॅाडाबिच पनि फुल बनेर हॅास्न सिक्नु पर्छ, त्यही हो जीवनको यथार्थ अनि त्यही हो जीवनको खुसी अर्थात आहा । </div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">The end</div><div dir="auto">10/9/2022</div><span style="color: #888888;"><div dir="auto"><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small;" /></div></span>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-55345535392401523702022-05-31T19:24:00.005-07:002022-05-31T19:32:01.635-07:00Courage and self-confidence are the only way to take on different challenges.<p><br /></p><p>Indira Ranamagar, a ray of hope for thousands of children and mother of numerous children, says that she has become the mother of forerunner of the future by overcoming various challenges due to her self-confidence, courage and grace.</p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDB2b45o0yAx0xGoYNNC5WMIcE6UJmWKYh8KQlj-6tZ0uGi9kwvN_lFMjeYKLAsHGpK6wsSHS7asZIlw8S2cMtyxkgGZwDmS1udPHvBIZVrIp3kiB-KDULl9jtDSp21m-v4ZU_1d7H7yWkVtR3jpLL0zBSBg3BqJhLNKljeQ0jIl5jqX9WXCs_OBsy5A/s4032/IMG-0084.jpg" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3024" data-original-width="4032" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDB2b45o0yAx0xGoYNNC5WMIcE6UJmWKYh8KQlj-6tZ0uGi9kwvN_lFMjeYKLAsHGpK6wsSHS7asZIlw8S2cMtyxkgGZwDmS1udPHvBIZVrIp3kiB-KDULl9jtDSp21m-v4ZU_1d7H7yWkVtR3jpLL0zBSBg3BqJhLNKljeQ0jIl5jqX9WXCs_OBsy5A/w640-h480/IMG-0084.jpg" width="640" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Indira Ranamagar with participants</td></tr></tbody></table><br /><p><br /></p><p>During her visit to the United States, Ranamagar, President of Prisoners Assistant Nepal ( PA) made the remarks while answering various queries of the participants. The program was organized by the Federation of Indigenous Peoples of Nepal in America (FIPNA). Ranamagar has been a mother of thousands of children who have been imprisoned for various reasons for over three decades and has been a wonderful mother for their bright future. </p><p><br /></p><p>Speaking on the occasion, Rana Magar said that she has been subjected to various forms of discrimination since childhood due to her being a woman. Influenced by the writer Parijat, she has started to serve the people in prison. She shared the bitter truth that her marital relationship ended because she supported helpless children without parents. While walking out with Parijat, she could not see the painful condition of the inmates and started supporting them unconditionally by giving them bath and cutting their nails. Ranamagar, who has been running 12 children home, two schools and four daycares since then, has been rewarded with various international awards.</p><p>She says, with the intent of her heart, she has received support from various donors for her project. She also explained her dissatisfaction with the ruling government of Nepal. She believes that leadership is possible only through love, affection, and respect for each other. She says, "Mother is the great leader of this world because only the mother’s love is selfless”.</p><p>In the program, Bishnu Maya Parivar, a social activist, shared her heartbreaking and emotional experience since she has visited her children home in person. During that time the founder and VP of the Federation of Indigenous Women of Nepal in America (FIWNA) Indira Chongbang, President of Jirel Society America and former CA member Shanti Jirel, President of Tamang Society of America Chhemang Tamang, Social Entrepreneur Keshav Ram Rai, Deepak Chaudhary from Tharu and Friends Society and other organizations participants and individuals were present on the occasion. Each of them respectfully made their own inquiries as well as expressed their respect and gratitude towards her humanity.</p><p><br /></p><p>The event was hosted by FIPNA’s general secretary Toma Lama. The speaker of the FIPNA, Subarna Shakya committed to work with Ranamanger on comings days and also wished her success on her days to come. Rajkumar Bista, the president of FIPNA appreciated for her challenging work during the COVD time and requested all the organizations to support the organization of Nepal who belongs to a real hero like Ranamagar. Bista also expressed his commitment to work together in the days to come and thanked all the participants before concluding the event formally.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-37976284017205608372022-05-01T05:01:00.002-07:002022-05-01T05:12:57.624-07:00FIWNA meets with UN delegatesThe Federation of Indigenous Women of Nepal in America (FIWNA) has held a discussion program with the representatives of various organizations from Nepal and other countries at the 21st meeting of the United Nations Permanent Forum for Indigenous Issues (UNPFII
<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKM7u5Iast7XsKkXdXR2PTE5KpluaC_5WDGTP9Tot0h3jkFJ9XKdcjMDb7seHRrKTObm_52ozLPhqRoX7MvbIisqsRx7T-CbCGfQRiHWsKIZLwJk_ix4tN7dSN6tq7bYpnitgYpw_7_UCbqRtt-fAZbUTusABiQopHem0kc-V5lKSjWpGK-ecG06vNlA/s2048/279217912_497885828737219_5383017485395963381_n.jpg" style="clear: right; display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: center;"><img alt="" border="0" data-original-height="1150" data-original-width="2048" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKM7u5Iast7XsKkXdXR2PTE5KpluaC_5WDGTP9Tot0h3jkFJ9XKdcjMDb7seHRrKTObm_52ozLPhqRoX7MvbIisqsRx7T-CbCGfQRiHWsKIZLwJk_ix4tN7dSN6tq7bYpnitgYpw_7_UCbqRtt-fAZbUTusABiQopHem0kc-V5lKSjWpGK-ecG06vNlA/s600/279217912_497885828737219_5383017485395963381_n.jpg" width="600" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">FIWNA with UN delegates</td></tr></tbody></table><div><br /></div>
Speaking on the occasion, Yasokanti Bhattachan, Advisor of the National Indigenous Women’s Federation (NIWF) and indigenous women activist, complained that indigenous women are being discriminated against all over the world as they are indigenous, women and indigenous women. She insisted. "Indigenous women need economic, social and political justice, for which collective efforts are always effective. Facing every challenge in the struggle, one should be optimistic for a brighter future for tomorrow,” she said. She also suggested that women should never give up any challenge to make the struggle into a reality.<div><br /></div><div> Phoolman Chaudhary, vice-chairman of the United Nations Permanent Forum for Indigenous Issues (UNPFII), a United Nations agency on indigenous issues, said he was "delighted" to have Nepali Indigenous women organized in such a busy place as the United States. " Please pay attention to the technical issues as well, I will always be able to help,” said Chaudhary.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> Indira Chongbang, Founder, and current Acting President of FIWNA provided information on the activities of the organization since its inception. "Indigenous women want to preserve their identity and existence in the United States as well, and FIWNA's main goal is to unite all Indigenous women who have immigrated from Nepal under one umbrella. As the rights of all women are indispensable for an egalitarian society. FIWNA is also trying to join hands with various international organizations to address the common issues,” she said. She also said that she would work hand in hand with various organizations to address the plight of immigrant women. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> Speaking on the occasion, Chinimaya Majhi, President of the National Indigenous Women’s Federation (NIWF) also praised Fivana's activities and suggested that not only Nepali Indigenous women in the United States but also Indigenous women around the world should unite and move forward together. Majhi also provided information about the various programs being conducted by NIWF. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> Former Guatemalan minister and indigenous women activist Olilia Dicoti also said that there are many similarities between the cultures of indigenous women in Nepal and Guatemala. She has been involved in women's rights for more than a decade and is also the first member of UNPFII. Dicoti, who considers equality to be the norm, described FIWNA’s honor ( Khada) as a spiritual gift.
Discussions were held among UNPFII Delegates; Rajesh Rai, Founder and Advocate of LAHURNIP, Igdolia Rojas, representative of MADRE, Project Partner of NIWF, Ellen Dictaan representative of TEBTEBBA from Philippines, Kamala Thapa Magar, representative of CIPRED Nepal, Ritu Thapa Magar, representative of INWOLAG, Nirmala Bhujel, representative of NIWF along with the FIWNA members.</div><div><br /></div><div> After a great meeting and discussion among all the participants, the program ended with a commitment to move forward together in the days to come
</div>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-30527293303178161792022-04-01T16:22:00.003-07:002022-04-01T16:22:38.650-07:00RISE UP WOMEN<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">It is okay for sadness to come </span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">It is okay to be anxious in your environment</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Because you are women, and you must rise up</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Each day, not a unicorn; however, each adversity serves a new lesson.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg9lTV5AmKW_4MEV2IKM_MUg0Mt9erlcToHFXGAYuG8trHNmRScuEQSBn0lx87KxXfQXtEBCn4-haR_SqzjSOSkQHxr5azjuXryOMAKTWSw9pVr33Dp2kWff6vMNKKEYgZxFDLqeHh2RbaT9Uuj1dVWA2eAdSpK5fqQs2BB0DBR0UiKOf_SAUqjqikqdA/s1504/IMG-3853.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1504" data-original-width="1093" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg9lTV5AmKW_4MEV2IKM_MUg0Mt9erlcToHFXGAYuG8trHNmRScuEQSBn0lx87KxXfQXtEBCn4-haR_SqzjSOSkQHxr5azjuXryOMAKTWSw9pVr33Dp2kWff6vMNKKEYgZxFDLqeHh2RbaT9Uuj1dVWA2eAdSpK5fqQs2BB0DBR0UiKOf_SAUqjqikqdA/w291-h400/IMG-3853.JPG" width="291" /></a></div><br /></span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">You are the creator of this world</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">The conqueror of this world; The warrior</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">For that reason, you must rise up</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">You may feel afflicted by your gender</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">You may feel intimidated by the treatment as a woman</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Doing the chores alone at home</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Never forget your values and your strength</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Don’t forget your beauty</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Inside Out: You are wonderful and bright</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Without you, your children and families are lost</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Without you, creation does not continue</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Without you, every man is incomplete</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">That is why you are priceless, you are so sensible</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">You are the treasure of this world.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">No matter the situation</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">stay consistent and never give up</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">If today rains, it will shine again</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">If today is terrible, your joy awaits to cherish you</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">If you are having a difficult time, the beautiful days are coming</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">have faith and believe in yourself.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Support the people who are in need and spread hope</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">The brighter day will come to embrace you.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">You will be a multi-talented, fulfilled creature of this world.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Take pride in your femininity</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Because the world needs you</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">You are a victor</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">Who turns difficulties into opportunities with wisdom and intelligence</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">take the challenges and face what comes</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">don’t give up, don’t quit</span></div><p></p><div style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><br />Dedicated to all the women of this world.</div><div style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><br /></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Written by Indira Chongbang</div><div style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><br /></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #1d2228; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Edited by Prof. Lauren Yanks</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-28663168510532737062021-03-02T17:53:00.003-08:002021-06-01T00:48:21.676-07:00 Living the life of a woman and seeking happiness<p><br /></p><p>What if evil doesn't really exist? What if evil is something dreamed up by man, and there is nothing to struggle against except out own limitations? The constant battle between our will, our desires, and our choices?”</p><p>― Libba Bray, Rebel Angels</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhir_sr88mZY9EFVY0BP0J-wWZobKb3e6SnnZbkOQKMucplVkDwsrnRtJGdOmRjW090SOkzYAvQ6ZfPbeu0jKxz4HJftSvYOXvwfYLGKfV3ucr8EtHfe5ky8TgVGT97hws6zUoVewAPHMs1/s890/Dance-in-rain-quote-2-890x667.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="667" data-original-width="890" height="272" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhir_sr88mZY9EFVY0BP0J-wWZobKb3e6SnnZbkOQKMucplVkDwsrnRtJGdOmRjW090SOkzYAvQ6ZfPbeu0jKxz4HJftSvYOXvwfYLGKfV3ucr8EtHfe5ky8TgVGT97hws6zUoVewAPHMs1/w620-h272/Dance-in-rain-quote-2-890x667.jpg" width="620" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p><p>I always dreamed to live my life with respect, dignity and equally addressed in every aspect of living. I don’t feel different than a man in anyways. But, I always smell the discrimination that comes from every corner of my personal and professional life. I wake up early in the morning, clean the home, prepare breakfast, prepare lunch and get ready to work by my self and get ready for my kids for school. Along the way, I have to wake my husband up and have to remind him it is already time. Not only that, I have to prepare coffee and breakfast for everyone before they come to the kitchen. I feel discriminated against and disrespected as it continues every day. It is absolutely unfair that anyone can understand. But fighting is not the solution to the problem if my counterpart doesn’t understand the truth.</p><p><br /></p><p>I am a working mother having two little kids. It is my great privilege to have an opportunity to work from home during this tough time of pandemic. But, sometimes I feel that my employer takes me for granted because they know I want to work but I can’t change the job at this moment having two kids and looking for a new job from home not easy at this tough time. Working for others means making money for them, whenever I make a big amount of money they become happy but whenever sometimes happen to come down they made their face. So, I feel that I am just a machine to work for my kids, to work for my family but not living the life that I really want.</p><p>It is said that showing the problems, telling own stories are the weakness of women as it could neither solve nor find a way. But, I am thinking a way, seeking advice from the people and from my friends and loved ones and of course from the people of the world, who understand the women's values, worth and respect them equally. I want to ask my hubby why can’t you prepare your meal on your own? But if he answers the invalid truth, I can’t keep on arguing with him every day, can’t fight with him that makes my kids feel bad. After all, I want my peaceful life, peaceful environment and happy family, and happy life at all.</p><p>Whenever I shared with my mother, she always assures me to be calm and to bear everything as a women's life is very tough until the children grow up. I also realize that it is not only me, millions of women in the world having multiple roles in a family just for the sake of living life in peace, seeking the happiness of family, and hoping the best for their children. </p><p>It is difficult to change someone if he doesn’t understand by himself, can’t respect himself. Rather, I have turned by myself trying to do the best thing, working hard by myself, and carking my kids with my best efforts and knowledge I have. I know it is not only me and many of the women in this world who have been suffered. I am just telling this story not to be said sorry but I want to tell the true story to this world.</p><p><br /></p><p>Life is always short but beautiful. Making people cry always give the tear but pleasing people at least give me happiness. I am emotionally strong and self-believer that I could make the changes, I could bring better days to come sooner or later once my little ones turn to taking care of themselves. Let’s spread the hope for everyone, every woman who is struggling in their life in many ways, we are here to share the pain, joy, happiness, and every worth of what we value to the people and to this life. So you are not alone, we are here together, let’s bring the hope, peace, and happiness of every human being in this world.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-21599993985540555292021-01-27T15:06:00.001-08:002021-01-27T15:06:26.979-08:00 Enhance your happiness by expecting less from others.<p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJwNspIOtcqFRQoBG_IZ_eBMtNXUBTdKdwz8KSWWV9Se3SgdA5UW9ywLWz1SbjwM25sgX9Bgyz4F3tS5Cw7kSrKAEag36hR0FqLCRVsJEXrxtOONapi57J7O4B4BMRrgHN3gvkyo8YnAys/s1280/happiness.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="313" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJwNspIOtcqFRQoBG_IZ_eBMtNXUBTdKdwz8KSWWV9Se3SgdA5UW9ywLWz1SbjwM25sgX9Bgyz4F3tS5Cw7kSrKAEag36hR0FqLCRVsJEXrxtOONapi57J7O4B4BMRrgHN3gvkyo8YnAys/w557-h313/happiness.jpg" width="557" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p><p>Happiness is the inner state of mind at which we feel better, cool, confident without any distraction of the mind. We can enhance our happiness when we expect less from others because the expectation of support, love, and care from someone lower our happiness sometimes.</p><p>We always expect the best thing from the people around us. We want them to be compassionate, empathetic and encouraging but in contrast, when we don’t get from them, we come to be sad and disappointed. </p><p><br /></p><p>By nature, human beings are social creatures, we always want to be surrounded by people. We need love, support, and care from our loved ones, but we are not equally lucky in this world who could have everything that we want. Everyone is different in this world, everyone's circumstances, and opinions are different. If we can blend our thoughts in a single pot putting our differences aside to form a loving and caring family then nothing is impossible. But if only one keeps on expecting from others who are not committed while pursuing the common goal, then those expectations will be valueless and also destroy the happiness that is still preserved.</p><p><br /></p><p>This is just an example, it could happen not only in the family or somewhere, but it may happen in any circumstances, relationship, friendship, or any other social ties that we come together and work together for a common goal.</p><p><br /></p><p>So, if we think that I could be happy if I had such people in my life, or I will be happy once I get married, I will be happy once someone I love the most will give me company; all the assumptions are wrong. Someone may give you company to some extent and may help you to be happy for a while but the happiness that comes along with someone is always temporary because we can’t guarantee anything in our life. Even our life here is temporary, we can’t guarantee the relationship we have can give us permanent happiness and the company someone is giving now will stay forever.</p><p><br /></p><p> We have to learn to be independent, self-reliant, we have to practice our mind to enjoy ourselves, we have to discover the ways that keep us happy even we are alone or ourselves in this world. Let's make our expectations less from others regardless of who they are. Someone could be your loved ones, your friends, or your companions, don’t expect to be happy only with their company. We must learn to live not only in laughing but also in crying.</p><p><br /></p><p>We want someone to listen to our pain, pressure, and someone who keeps us cheering all the time. We could have someone in our life who listens to us, care for us but it doesn’t mean our happiness should be dependent on all expects. Someone could be in different situations one day, that loved one could turn into a hater one day, or many possibilities might come that we don’t intend it to be. It will be the toughest situation if we are dependent, our happiness is dependent on all those circumstances.</p><p>No matter how people behave with us, how they change the way one day, we must keep ourselves happy oneself. When we don’t expect or always expect less from our companies it always enhances our happiness. Let’s grow our mind and thought ultimately toward our self-assurance and augment our happiness to infinity.</p><p><br /></p><p>The end</p><p>By Indira Chongbang 01/27/2021</p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-77143196137165828132021-01-17T07:46:00.003-08:002021-01-17T07:46:23.786-08:00मेरो मनको गुनगुन तिमी <p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5PhBkjIo6XnRw1QLjX50EQFilsfrYWsgt_8h5kq3iy-wOX-5P_Q971VGr-6ckh8B9CSuWOeqr_AzvGuO40un3UQ_HpYVYc82pgswwfGXckMd7G2NAgPlXBKYIwck5C3YyfgGZ9NpSBP2X/s1280/%25E0%25A4%25AE%25E0%25A4%25BE%25E0%25A4%25A8%25E0%25A5%258D%25E0%25A4%259B%25E0%25A5%2587+%25E0%25A4%258F%25E0%25A4%2595%25E0%25A4%25A6%25E0%25A4%25BF%25E0%25A4%25A8+%25E0%25A4%25A7%25E0%25A4%25B0%25E0%25A5%258D%25E0%25A4%25A4%25E0%25A5%2580%25E0%25A4%25AC%25E0%25A4%25BE%25E0%25A4%259F+%25E0%25A4%259F%25E0%25A4%25BE%25E0%25A4%25A2%25E0%25A4%25BE+%25E0%25A4%2597%25E0%25A4%258F+%25E0%25A4%25AA%25E0%25A4%25A8%25E0%25A4%25BF+%25E0%25A4%25AF%25E0%25A5%258B+%25E0%25A4%2595%25E0%25A4%25B2%25E0%25A5%258D%25E0%25A4%25AA%25E0%25A4%25A8%25E0%25A4%25BE%25E0%25A4%2595%25E0%25A4%25BE.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; 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A daydream<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><br /><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="<iframe width="560" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/l6UnTCHD18Q" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture" allowfullscreen></iframe>" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" target="_blank"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="299" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGh1d4PW5ryUo9inJZ-qYvpHld7AqzMb7wPUuXoBe9_IqwwJb4pqoREKTA4fPuz76li9wI99sy-_hpn_xZ9XjoiimHPuZMrmBWuB01ZTJFfuovmyRfu1jbsEqNJ_Kl-M-z6o8VTbJe1aSg/w532-h299/for+blog.jpg" width="532" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p><p>Having a friend is always a precious moment and the joy to share everything with each other is insurmountable. We always try to smile and hope for better days to come. We don’t have exact words to describe how much it means to us being on the side of each other. Nilima, one of my sisters and law who is younger than me though we are a remarkably close friend to each other. We always enjoy our company sharing our thoughts, ideas, and issues that we have faced in our lives and people may face in general in many ways.</p><p>As a human being, there are so many common things in this world and more importantly, a woman who born and grew in Nepal has faced similar challenges from an early age. We both came to know and identify so many common issues that we have and always try to find out a way to overcome those which suffer us. While talking one day, an idea came to our mind and we decided to start a YouTube channel with the name of "Nandabhauju' constructing our common views and opinions as what we do every day during our conversation.</p><p>It is just a daydream because we don’t have that much big goal to achieve rather, we enjoy while talking and discussing some personnel and social issues those are only the fun part for us. Life is so precious and beautiful when we find someone supportive, someone kind, and helpful to us. Our motive is to make our life prettier and a tiny effort to add a brick to make this world a better place for everyone, sharing love, smile, and happiness among a human being. We love to laugh and enjoy our togetherness and we have expected that you will enjoy it too.</p><p>In this first episode we have shared our thoughts about a friendship why it is important to us, how can we keep it going, and many more as many ideas as we had. Many of my friends and best wishes have reached out to me with regards and blessings for this new venture. I would like to thank you all for your support, blessing, and feedback. We are grateful to you for all your love and support. Your feedback means a lot to us and we will truly try our best to give in our new coming episode.</p><p><br /></p><p>By Indira Chongbang</p><p>12/27/2020</p><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/l6UnTCHD18Q" width="320" youtube-src-id="l6UnTCHD18Q"></iframe></div><br /><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-37168859191417188342020-12-19T20:06:00.005-08:002020-12-19T20:06:47.393-08:00 मान्छे बिनाको मान्छे म ( एक परित्यत्ता को कथा )<p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a 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म। हो, हजारौ भिडमा पनि म हराइरहेकी छु, केवल आफ्नै संसारमा, आफ्नै दुनियाँमा अनि आफ्नै रोजाइको जीवनमा। जिन्दगी जसरी बाच्यो त्यसरी नै बाँचिने रहेछ, जसरी भोगियो त्यस्तै भोगिने रहेछ। जन्मदा एक्लै जन्मिए, अबस्य पनि एक्लै मर्नु छ एकदिन। तैपनि जन्मपछिका आफन्त र परिवारका साथहरुले संधै एउटा हलचल बनाउदो रहेछ। कसैको साथले, परिवारको साथले अनि साथीसंगीको साथले जीवन रंगिन बन्दो रहेछ। </p><p><br /></p><p>हो त्यसैले त यो सात समुद्र पारीको देशमा आफ्नै खुसीको संसारमा बांचिरहंदा मलाई त्यहि बालापनको यादहरूले साताउछ जहाँ भाइ, बहिनि, दिदी, आमाबाबा लगायतका सदस्यहरू संगै बसेर खाएको, संगै हासेको, सामुहिक उदेश्यको लागि बाचेको जीवन। मेरो पनि यो रहर त होइन यो बिरानो भूमिमा एक्लै बाच्ने। जिन्दगीले जता डोर्यायो त्यतै डोरिनु पर्दो रहेछ, नचाहँदा नचाहँदै एक्लै पनि रमाउनु पर्दो रहेछ। कसको रहर हुन्न जिन्दगिलाइ हराभरा बनाउने, कसको चाहना हुन्न जीवनमा संधै साथ् दिने, माया दिने कोहि होस् सदाको लागि। तर रहर र चाहनाले मात्र जिन्दगि कहाँ बन्दो रहेछ यो त जता बहन्छ आफ्नै तालमा अनि आफ्नै सुरमा बहँदो रहेछ। </p><p><br /></p><p>लगभग आधा जिन्दगी त यसरी बिताए वाकी जिन्दगी पनि यसैगरी बिताउन सक्छु , आफ्नो खुसीको लागि आफै हास्न सक्छु, आफ्नो आबश्यकताको लागि आफै कर्म गर्न सक्छु। जिन्दगी जे छ त्यसैमा गर्ब गर्छु, त्यसैमा आफुलाई पूर्ण देख्छु। तर जबजब कहिले काही यो शरीरमा कुनै पिडा आउछ त्यहि बेला कसैको सम्झना एकदमै आउछ, सायद उ मेरो साथमा भएको भए, कम्तिमा तातो पानि दिउ, तिमीलाई भोक लाग्यो होला हगि, आज संच भएन होला हो ? आदि आदि प्रश्न हरु मेरो निम्ति हुन्थ्यो होला। हो मेरो कल्पनाको साथी, भावनाको साथि मेरो साथमा भएको भए कम्तिमा म एक्लो हुँदाको यो अशक्त अवस्थामा यिनै प्रश्नहरूले पनि कम्तिमा सहानुभूति मिल्थ्यो होला ? कम्तिमा म एक्लो भएको बेला एक शब्द मात्र बोलेको भए पनि मलाई कति ठुलो साहास आउथ्यो होला हगि?</p><p><br /></p><p>हो हिजो आज जीवनको यो आधा बसन्तको संघारमा यिनै प्रश्नहरु संग बाचिरहेकी छु। रहर र चाहना अनुसारको जिन्दगी भईदिएको भए सायद अहिले सम्म मेरो पनि जीवनमा मलाई संधै माया गर्ने कुनै जीवन साथी हुन्थे होलान्, आमा भन्ने मायालु भाकाहरु हुर्कंदै हुन्थे होला। तर सब त्यो त कल्पनाको एउटा सानो बिम्ब मात्र बन्यो मेरो जीवनमा किनकि मलाई कसै संग माया प्रिती गास्ने न त अवसर नै मिल्यो न त कुनै भने जस्तै सपनाको राजकुमार नै मिल्यो। ओहो मेरो जीवनमा कोहि नआएको भने अवस्य होइन तर खोइ किन मैले भने जस्तो, सोचे जस्तो मच्न्छे भने आएको होइन। कोहि आयो एकदम घमण्डी, कोहि आयो झुट बोल्ने, कोहि एकदमै माया गर्ने पनि आए तर आफुलाई आफ्नै जातको चाहिने विजातको मान्छे। वास्तबमा किन हो किन मान्छे हरु आएर पनि गए तर पनि म सदा मान्छे बिनाको एक्लो मान्छे संधै एक्लो अनि आफु, आफ्नै संसारमा बाचिरहे। </p><p><br /></p><p>बिहे गर्नेको परिवार पनि त्यति शान्ति र सुखी चाहि देख्दिन म। कोहि कोहि फेसबुकभरि माया प्रीतिको फोटो राख्छन् तर थाहा छ मलाई उनीहरु वास्तविक जीवन कसरि बाचेका छन्। मलाई मेरा कतिपय साथीहरुको बैबाहिक जीवन देखेर त ठिट लाग्छ, जो जीवनलाई पूर्ण ठान्छन् खालि समाजलाई देखाउनलाई। आफुलाई श्रीमान र श्रीमतीको संज्ञा दिन्छन् मान्छे र समाजलाई देखाउनलाइ। यसरि अरुलाई देखाउनको लागि नै सम्झौता चाहि किन गर्नु पर्ने, आफु खुसि नभई नभई अरुको निम्ति किन बाच्नु पर्ने, तिनीहरुको जीवन भन्दा त् हजारौ गुणा मेरो जीवन नै रमाइलो लाग्छ, घमाइलो लाग्छ। कतिपय साथीहरु खुलेर आफ्नो मनको कुरा भन्छन्, केटा मान्छेले आफ्नो श्रीमतीलाई कस्तो ब्यबहार गर्छन् उनीहरुको भनाइ बाट पनि प्रस्ट हुन्छ। सायद जीवनमा मैले गरेको निर्णय यहि अर्थमा सत्य लाग्छ मलाई कसैले किन काम वाट ढिलो आइस भनेर सोध्ने छैन, बिदाको दिनमा किन यति धेरै सुतिस भनेर प्रश्न शोधने कोहि छैन। </p><p><br /></p><p>यसरी आफ्नो स्वतन्त्र जीवन बाच्ने आदत परेपछि मलाई कसै संग सम्झौता गर्दाको जीवन आफुलाई आफै अन्याय गरे जस्तै लाग्छ। मेरी एकजना साथीको श्रीमान मलाई एकदमै स्तर्बन लाग्छ। हरेक कुरा उसकै माथि हुनु पर्ने, उसले गरेको सबै काम राम्रो अरुले जे गरे पनि नराम्रो । मेरो साथी जस्तो सुकै पिडामा पनि फिस्व बनावटी हासो हास्छिन् बनावटी यो अर्थमा भन्दै छु, उनि आफ्नो परवारको खुसीको लागि जे पनि गर्छिन्, आफ्नो श्रीमानलाई खुसि राख्नका लागि आफिसवाट पनि दौडदै घर आउछिन तर पनि उनको श्रीमान्को प्रशंसा कहिले सुनेको छैन मैले। यस्तै सम्बन्ध देख्दा लाग्छ मलाई गलत साथीसंग हिंड्नु भन्दा एक्लो जीवन नै हजार गुणा सहि छ। </p><p><br /></p><p>जीवन कुन अर्थमा सहि कुन अर्थमा गलत त्यो सबैको भरमा छ। जस्तो सुकै अर्थमा जीवन जिए पनि जहाँ खुसि मिल्छ, जहाँ शान्ति मिल्छ त्यहि नै जीवन जिउनुको सहि अर्थ भन्ने लाग्छ। म एक्लै छु त के भो म आफै खुसि छु। भन्नेले भन्दा हुन घमण्डी भयो, केटा पाएन आदि आदि तर मैले मेरो जीवन अरुको लागि, समाजको लागि अनि मान्छेको लागि बाचेको अवस्य होइन। म एक्लो छु, आफै खुसि छु, आफै सुखी छु अनि आफै स्वतन्त्र छु। तर पनि कहिलेकाही यो एक्लोपनले नराम्ररी निमोत्छ, नराम्रोसंग पिरोल्छ, अनि जिस्काउछ आफैलाई आफै संग। </p><p><br /></p><p>हो कतिपय पारिवारिक जीवनमा सुखी होलान्, कति जना एक्लो जीवनमै सुखी होलान्, खुसि होलान्। मान्छेले यो राम्रो, यो नराम्रो भनेर जसलाई एउटा जज गर्छ नि त्यो भने सारै मन पर्दैन। म किन सिंगल भए अर्थात् परिवार बनाइन त्यो मेरो कुरो हो तर समाजले, मान्छेले औला ठड्याएको पटक्कै मन पर्दैन मलाई। त्यसैले भन्न्छु म बाच्ने सबैको आ आफ्नो तरिका हो , इच्छा हो अनि चाहाना हो। कसरी मन पर्छ त्यसरी नै जिउनु पर्छ, यसो हुनु पर्ने ,त्यसो हुनु पर्ने भनेर अर्कालाई भन्नु भन्दा मेरो के हुनु पर्ने हो त्यसै माथि बिचारेको राम्रो। </p><p><br /></p><p>म हु एक परित्यक्ता यस अर्थमा कि न त मलाई समाजले, मान्छेले यो भन्ला, त्यो भन्ला भन्ने कुरोमा डर छ न त जीवन अरुको लागि जिउनु नै छ </p><p>मेरो जीवन हो, मलाई नै थाहा छ म कसरी बाच्न सक्छु, कसरी हास्न सक्छु अनि जिउन सक्छु। म हजारौ मान्छेको भिडमा पनि एक्लै बाच्न सक्छु, एक्लै जिउन सक्छु, मलाई देखेर नहासे हुन्छ बरु तिम्रो आफ्नो काम गरे राम्रो किनकी म तिम्रो कुराले अलिकति पनि झुक्ने छैन। </p><p><br /></p><p>समाप्त </p><p><br /></p><p>Written by Indira Chongbang'</p><p>12/19/2020</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-29555161656466732542020-12-07T15:56:00.000-08:002020-12-07T15:56:13.969-08:00प्रेमिल सपनाको राजकुमार तिमी <p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgjAgDnb8k0Zef1Mzc7F2xg6-X29x0RBEgKjctlnrAyU8dvkrDi3XO8u7ldD_NT_kiSBlc2W-gxa0a-fkqFmei8KV8rFDhbF9pjlgn2MM-GATwopaM0dwiHHT8K0Jub2BsU5fidiGap0mb5/s1280/%25E0%25A4%25A4%25E0%25A4%25BF%25E0%25A4%25AE%25E0%25A5%2580.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="325" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgjAgDnb8k0Zef1Mzc7F2xg6-X29x0RBEgKjctlnrAyU8dvkrDi3XO8u7ldD_NT_kiSBlc2W-gxa0a-fkqFmei8KV8rFDhbF9pjlgn2MM-GATwopaM0dwiHHT8K0Jub2BsU5fidiGap0mb5/w577-h325/%25E0%25A4%25A4%25E0%25A4%25BF%25E0%25A4%25AE%25E0%25A5%2580.jpg" width="577" /></a></div><p></p><p>फुलको मोह भमरालाई, धर्तिको शीत जुनलाई अनि प्रेमिल सपनाको राजकुमार राजकुमारीलाई। तिमी मेरो कथाको राजकुमार अनि म तिम्रो राजकुमारी। जुनेली रातमा, तिम्रो मन्द मुस्कान सहितको प्रवेश अनि मेरो प्रतिक्ष्याको अन्त्य भएको त्यो पल। बर्षौ वर्षको पर्खाइमा लोलाएका मेरा ति आँखाहरु, तिम्रो पर्खाइमा बिताएका ती गोधुली रातहरु। दुइ वर्षको यो पर्खाइ हजारौ वर्षजस्तै लागेको थियो, यी सारा दिन र रातहरु एउटा कल्पनाको सागरमा डुब्दै बितेका थिए । आज मेरा ती सारा सपनालाइ यथार्तमा पाउँदा मेरो खुसीको कुनै सिमा रहेन। धर्तीमा कुनै व्यक्ति त्यति खुसि छन् भने त्यो म छु, त्यति सुखी छ भने त्यो म छु किनकि म तिम्रो राजकुमारी। </p><p><br /></p><p>तिम्रो मुस्कानभित्र मेरो माया देख्दै छु, तिम्रो चेहराभित्र मेरो नाम भेट्दै छु। हाम्रो कल्पना, हाम्रो सपना आज साच्चै साकार बनेछ। तिम्रो र मेरो साथ देखेर जुन पनि मुस्कुराउदै छ, अनि सागर पनि सुसेल्दैछ केवल हाम्रो प्रीतको यो पलमा, यो हाम्रो प्रेम उत्सबको मोहमा। म मक्ख छु, म मोहित भएर मेरो सुस्त मुस्कान तिमीलाई प्रथम उपहार टक्राउदै छु। हामी यो प्रीतको सागरमा डुब्दै छौ, भावनाको गहिराइमा, मनको एउटा सानो कुनाबाट निस्किएको यो प्रिती आज हाम्रो जीवनको बिशाल मन्दिरमा सजिदै गरेको पल यो। जीवनमा धेरै सपना गुमाउदाको पिडा आज तिमीलाई पाउदा सबै भुल्दै छु। </p><p><br /></p><p>अब त मैले तिमीबिनाको पल बिताउनु पर्ने छैन, तिम्रो अभाबमा सुसेल्नु पर्ने छैन किनकि तिमी सधैको लागि मेरो बनेको छौ केवल मेरो मात्र राजकुमार। अब हामी साथ साथमा जीवन रंगिन बनाउने छौ, जीवन हराभरा बनाउने छौ। तिमीबिनाको कुनै पल मेरो लागि असहाय हुनेछ। मलाई पूर्ण विश्वास छ, तिमीले पनि मेरो हरेक साथको अर्थ बुझ्ने छौ अनि मेरो अभाबमा तिमी पनि त म जस्तै पानीबिनाको माछा हुनेछौ नि होइन र ? म तिम्रो राजकुमारी नभएको भए दुनियाँ सारा भुलेर म कहाँ आउथियौ होला त ? तिम्रो र मेरो भावना एक भयो, मन एक भयो, दुइ मुटु एउटा भयो त्यसैले त तिमी मेरो निम्ति तिम्रो सपनाको राजकुमारीको निम्ति सात समुद्रबाट आज यहाँ छौ। </p><p><br /></p><p>अब त साचीकै हामी हाम्रो प्रेमिल सागरमा डुब्ने छौ, मायाको महान रथ यात्रामा अघि बढ्ने छौ। हामी कति भाग्यमानी, सायद संसारको भाग्यमानीमध्ये एक महान भाग्यमानी प्रेमी हामी हौ। हिजो देखेको सपना आज साकार भएको छ। तिमी बचनको साची नै पक्का रहेछौ, म अब त बिस्वस्त भए, कथाको राजकुमार मात्र होइन रियल जीवनको राजकुमार पनि साचिकै साहसी हुँदो रहेछ। त्यसैले म त मख्ख छु। </p><p><br /></p><p>कसैको प्रेमको कथा होस् त तिम्रो र मेरो जस्तै। कसैले कसैलाई माया गर्छ भने साचिकै त्यो चोखो होस्, बिना कुनै स्वार्थ, बिना कुनै सन्देह। माया जति गर्यो त्यति बढ्छ, प्रेमले नै संसार सुन्दर बन्छ, रमाइलो बन्छ जीवन अनि रंगिन बन्छ हरेक पलहरु। तिमीबिनाको पल, माया बिनाको पल अनि जिन्दगी कल्पना पनि गर्न सक्दिन सायद, किनकि म तिम्रो मायामा डुबिसकेकी छु। तिम्रो मायाको आभासमा यति गहिरो यात्रामा पुगे मलाई जिन्दगी यसैमा नाच्न मन लाग्छ, हास्न मन लाग्छ अनि यसैभित्र रुमल्लिएर बाच्न मन लाग्छ। </p><p><br /></p><p>हो मायाले प्रेमले हेर्यो भने साची नै जीवन सुन्दर बन्छ। तिमी जस्तै राजकुमार सबैको जीवनमा भैदिए, कसैले यहाँ जीवन एक्लो बाच्न पर्दैन थियो। तिम्रो जस्तै प्रेम सबैले पाएको भए कैयन राजकुमारीहरु रोएर बस्नु पर्दैन थियो। संधै म कामना गर्छु, प्राथना गर्छु, तिम्रो जस्तै माया, तिम्रो जस्तै प्रेम, तिम्रो जस्तै साथ् दुनियामा सबैलाई मिलिरहुन। </p><div>By Indira Chongbang</div><div>12/07/2020</div><p> 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class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">जिन्दगी हराभरा बन्नका लागि जसरी बाच्नको लागि आधारभूत चिजहरुको आवश्यक पर्छ त्यसरी नै अनेक साथहरूको आवश्यक पर्दो रहेछ। मेरो जीवन एउटा शुन्दर त थियो तर तिम्रो साथले रंगिन बनेको छ । तिमी यस्तो हौ बसन्तको आवागमनमा नयाँ पालुवा पाएको बिरुवा जस्तै, धर्तिको स्वर्णिम साथमा मुस्काएको जुन जस्तै अनि सिमसिम बर्षामा देखिने रंगिन इन्द्रेणीको मोह जस्तै। किनकि तिमी मेरो मनको साथि, दिलको साथि अनि सबै भन्दा नजिकको साथी। तिमी छौ र जीवनमा मज्जा छ, हसाइमा दम छ, बाच्नुमा अर्थ छ। </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">हो तिमी मेरो साथि, तिमी संधै माथि छौ। तिम्रो हर साथ सुन्दर छ, शान्त छ अनि बिशाल छ। तिमी यति शान्त छौ, शितल छौ भन्छन् नि मान्छेहरु फलाना त आँखामा राखे पनि नभिझाउने, हो तिमी त्यहि हौ। धर्तिको एक शुन्दर सिर्जना, सबैलाई माया गर्न सक्ने एक प्रेमी, एक साथी, एक अबिभाबक जे पनि, जति ब्याख्या गरे पनि तिम्रो साथको बर्णन गर्न ग्राह्रै हुन्छ मलाई। जो हौ तिमी मायाको खानि हौ, एक अद्भुत शक्ति हौ जसले कसैको आँखामा संधै हासो छाएको देख्न चाहन्छ, जो संधै अरुलाई रमाएको देख्न चाहन्छ। </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">बिहान बिउझियेर जब भगवानलाई धन्यवाद दिन्छु, प्रथम श्रेय तिमी हुन्छौ। आभारी छु जीवनमा तिम्रो साथको लागि, फुरुंग फुर्किन्छु, मसक्क मस्किन्छु अनि आफैलाई आफै सोधिरहन्छु किन फ़ुर्किञ्छौ यति धेरै ? किन हर्स बिभोरले उम्लिन खोज्छौ ? तिमीलाई उत्तर हुन्छ मेरो किनकि मेरो मनको साथी पाएर, सबै भन्दा संसारमा नजिकको मान्छे पाएर जसले संधै दुखमा पर्दा मलम लगाउने, खुसि हुँदा हास्न सगाउने, रुनु मन लाग्दा संगै रोइदिने । कोहि कसैको साथ् होला त यस्तो ? आफै प्रश्न पनि सोधिरहन्छु । </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">तिम्रो साथले त हो यो मनमा एतिका खुसीका प्यालाहरु फ़ुरेका , तिम्रो कोमल भावनाले त हो यो धर्तीमा तिमी जस्तै सच्छा साथी पनि हुन्छन भन्ने अवगत गराएको नत्र मैले त यो दुनियाँ र समाजलाई अर्कै आँखाले हेर्न थालिसकेको थिए। यो समाज नै नौलो लाग्थ्यो, यो संसार स्वार्थी लाग्थ्यो किनकि मलाई यो आकाश, यो हावामा बहने सबै सासहरु तिनै स्वार्थी मान्छेबाट निस्किएको सास उडिरहेको भान हुन्थ्यो मलाई। तर जब तिमी मेरो जीवनमा आयौ नि त्यसपछि मेरो त्यो हेराइ, त्यो सोचाई सबका सब परिवर्तन भएका छन्। मैले देख्ने आँखाहरु परिवर्तन भएका छन् । हेर्ने मनहरु परिवर्तन भएका छन्। त्यसैले त धर्ति सुन्दर देख्न थालेकी छु, यहाँका सबका सब मनहरुमा स्नेह देख्न थालेकी छु। </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"> </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">थाहा छ तिमीलाई ? अब त म मलाई घृणा गर्ने जोकोहीलाई पनि माया गर्न थालेकी छु, मलाई कसैले इर्स्या गरेको थाहा हुँदै हुँदै पनि तिनिहरुसंग नजिकिन थालेकी छु। किन थाहा छ ? किनकी मैले थाहा पाए, रिसाएर, जलेर अनि इर्स्या गरेर कुनै युन्द्ध जितिन्दैन। फेरि बल्ल बल्ल पाएको यो जीवनमा चिन्ता, देश, इर्स्या या त कसैलाई घृणा गरेर कसले के पाएको छ ? यदि पाएको छ भने बदलामा त्यस्तै पाएको छ। कसैलाई रिस गर्यो रिस पाएको छ। कसैलाई दुख दियो भने बदलामा दुख पाएको छ। त्यसैले मैले पनि सिके तिमीबाट माया गर्ने बानि, सबैलाई आदर गर्ने बानि। चाहे उनीहरुले मलाई घृणा गरुन या त तिरस्कार गरुन् तर म त यस्तो एउटा मानब हु जो सबैलाई संधै माया गर्छु, सबैलाई आदर गर्छु किनकि यो सबै तिम्रो प्रेरणा हो। </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">मैले कसरी सिके होला ? तिमी जान्न चाहन्छौ ? सायद अब त थाहा पायौ होला। जब जब म तिमिसंग रिसाउछु तिमी फेरि पनि मुस्कुराई रहन्छौ। जबजब म तिमीलाई रिसको आबेशमा निलुला झैँ गरेर घुर्छु तिमी त रिसाउनुको साटो फिस्व हासी पो दिन्छौ। हो त्यहि तिम्रो त्यहि स्वभाबबाट आफु पनि प्रभावित भए। त्यसैले तिमीले मेरो मनमा यस्तो स्थान पायौ, मेरो मनको साथि, तिमी संधै माथि। तिमी मेरो नजरमा मात्र होइन दुनियाको यस्तै मिठो साथी बन्नु। दुखि आत्माहरुको मलम बन्नु अनि सबै मनहरुको मनको साथी बन्नु। तिमीलाई धेरै धेरै सुभकामना। </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div></div>THE END<p></p><div>12/04/2020</div>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-85440490530037630732020-11-30T06:58:00.006-08:002020-11-30T06:58:54.804-08:00तिम्रो फोनको स्त्री आवाज<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDIht2Gqk0vptOH7EcjuUB3fu661jpEpmPtpwG3OhlTlklUz5hXt5fG_0CVxcp-5KJds72mPRPD14VukWrlvr4Yaf_oQKlT5-QErvEBUi8v-PzSGSQQzPYdHAfNtmilYLT8nmH5xRkEJiO/" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="423" data-original-width="928" height="291" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDIht2Gqk0vptOH7EcjuUB3fu661jpEpmPtpwG3OhlTlklUz5hXt5fG_0CVxcp-5KJds72mPRPD14VukWrlvr4Yaf_oQKlT5-QErvEBUi8v-PzSGSQQzPYdHAfNtmilYLT8nmH5xRkEJiO/w639-h291/image.png" width="639" /></a></div><br /><br /><p></p><p> म तिमीलाई बिर्सिन खोजिरहेको छु । हरेक दिन प्रयास गर्छु । तर पनि सकिरहेको छैन ।</p><p><br /></p><p>अनि म नशामा हुन्छु र डुब्छु नी जब । तिमीलाई विर्सन खोज्छु, किनकी मैले यो सम्बन्धको कुनै गन्तब्य देखिन, न त मिठो अवसानको नै ।</p><p>म त केवल भावनामा एक्लै बहिरहँदो रहेछु । सपना एक्लै बुनिरह्दो रहेछु तर के थाहा तिमीसंग त्यो ठाउँ अघि नै पूर्ण भैसकेको रहेछ । मैले भुल्न नखोजेर नि के गरुँ ?</p><p><br /></p><p>तिमीलाई देख्ने मेरो आँखा गलत रहेछ किनकि मेरो नजरमा तिमी संधै एउटा निस्वार्थ मान्छे, स्वाभिमानी मान्छे जसले हरेकलाई उत्तिकै सम्मान गर्छ, माया गर्छ ।</p><p><br /></p><p>हो । मेरो अन्दाजमा तिमी एक अद्भुत ब्यक्ति हौ । हाम्रो बाबा आमाको संसार भन्दा अलग सोचको एक नयाँ अवतार हौ।</p><p>के मैले सोचेकै जस्तो तिमी हौ र ?</p><p>माफ गर, मलाई आजकल यस्तो प्रश्न मनको कुनै कुनाबाट पनि आउँछ । तर, होइन भन्ने जवाफ स्वीकार्न म अझै सकिरहेको भने छैन ।</p><p>म एक निर्दोष, संधै तिम्रो भलाइ चाहने, तिम्रो एक अभिन्न मित्र ।</p><p>हामी बिचमा एक घनिष्ठ मित्रता बाहेक अरु कुनै सम्बन्ध थिएन, किनकि हाम्रो पेशा एकै थियो । त्यसैले त हामी नजिक थियौँ । तर चाहेर या नचाहेर हामी यती नजिक भयौँ कि प्रत्येक दिन तिमीसँग नबोलेको पल खल्लो लाग्थ्यो, अधुरो लाग्थ्यो । अनि न्यास्रो लाग्थ्यो।</p><p>परिस्थितिले तिम्रो कर्म भुँमि बेलायत बन्यो, मेरो अमेरिका । तर यसले केही असर पारेन । किनकि हाम्रो मन संगै थियो । हामी हरेक दिन फोनमा दुख सुख साटासाट गर्थियौँ । यसैले हाम्रो भौतिक दुरीले हामीलाई कुनै फरक पारेन ।</p><p>समय कति चाँडो बित्दै गयो । तिमी बेलायत गएको पनि बर्सौ बितेछ । अनि म अमेरिका आएको पनि तेस्तै कैयन वर्ष बितिसकेछ । हामीले न त एउटा साथको कल्पना गर्यौ न त कुनै प्रेम को नै । तर पनि मेरो एक्लोपनमा तिम्रो हरेक दिनको फोन वार्ताले मलाई संधै तिम्रो सामिप्यको अनुभूति दिइरह्यो ।</p><p>शायद धर्तीमा तिमी नै मेरो यति नजिकको मान्छे थियौ जसले मेरो स्वास्थ्य अनि हरेक बिषयमा चासो राख्थ्यो । खुलेर तिमीले कहिले मलाई माया गर्छु भनेर भनेनौ तर मलाई तिम्रो ब्यवहारबाट प्रस्ट थाहा थियो, तिमी मलाई यति धेरै माया गर्छौ आफु भन्दा पनि बढी । हो, मेरो पनि यही कमजोरी थियो । मेरो मनको कुरो कहिले पनि भनिन । बिस्तारै बिस्तारै म तिम्रो प्रेममा फस्दै थिएँ । प्रेमका तुसाराहरु आफसे आफ मेरो दिमागमा रंगिन भएर पलाउन थाले । धर्ती सुन्दर देख्न थालेँ । आकाश रंगिन लाग्न थाल्यो तिम्रो साथ संगै जिन्दगी रंगिन पाउन थालेँ ।</p><p><br /></p><p>केही समय अघि देखि मेरो मनमा अनेक कुरो खेलिरहेको थियो । किन किन मनबाट पलाएको प्रेम पोखुँ जस्तै लागेको थियो। त्यसैले मैले यो कोरेकी थिए सिर्फ तिम्रो लागि ।</p><p><br /></p><p>किन किन पिरतीको यो शहरमा आज मलाई घुम्न मन लाग्यो</p><p>तिमीले दिएको मिठो मिठो बचनभित्र आफै रम्न मन लाग्यो</p><p>तिम्रो हाम्रो साथ् युगौ युग संधै यस्तै बनिरहोस</p><p>किन किन यहि चाह्भित्र आफुलाई हराउन मन लग्यो।</p><p><br /></p><p>हरेक दिन फोन गर्ने समय एकै थियो । मेरो साँझ पर्दा तिम्रो त्यहाँ रात हुन्थ्यो । म निदाउनु अघि तिमीसंग कुरा गर्ने आदत नै परेको थियो मलाई ।</p><p><br /></p><p>एक दिन अचम्मै भयो । त्यो दिन फोन आएन तिम्रो । मलाई एकदम छटपटी भयो । म निदाउन सकिन तिमीसंग फोनमा कुरा नगरी। त्यसैले हत्त न पत्त तिमीलाई फोन गर्न पुगेँ । तिम्रो सन्चो बिसन्चो बुझ्न हतार यो मन जब कुनै परिचित महिलाले फोन उठाइन, तब म झसङ्ग भएँ ।</p><p><br /></p><p>मैले तिम्रो नेपाल देखिकै साथी भएको अनि तिम्रो नजिकको साथी भएको सबै कुरो उनीसँग बताएँ । उनले पनि तिमी केही समयको लागि बाहिर गएको अनि उनि पनि तिम्रो साथी भएको बताइन् ।</p><p><br /></p><p>निक्कै लामो कुराकानी पछि मैले फोन राखेँ । तिमी राम्रै छौ भन्ने कुरोले जति मलाई खुशी दियो त्यति नै अर्को पीडा दियो त्यो कौतुहलले, तिनी को होलिन्, जसले तिम्रो फोन उठायो अनि साथीको संज्ञा दियो मलाई ।</p><p><br /></p><p>दोश्रो दिन ।</p><p><br /></p><p>तिम्रो फोनको इन्तजारमा थिएँ म । त्यही समय एउटा म्यासेजको आवाज आयो फोनमा ।</p><p>यो पक्कै तिम्रो म्यासेज हुनुपर्छ भन्दै म हतार हतारमा म्यासेज हेर्छु। मेरी साथि इन्नाले एक फोटो म्यासेज पठाईछिन् मलाई । कसको फोटो हो यकिन गर्न मुस्किल पर्छ । धेरै समय नियालेर हेर्दा थाहा हुन्छ, त्यो अरु कोहि नभएर मेरो प्रिय मित्र कमलको अर्थात तिम्रो विवाहको फोटो हुन्छ ।</p><p><br /></p><p>ओहो, मैले देखेँ तिम्रो विवाहको तस्बिर ।</p><p><br /></p><p>म एकदम जिज्ञासु भएर इन्नालाई फोन गर्छु तब थाहा हुन्छ तिम्रो बेलायतमा बिबाह भएको पाँच वर्ष भएछ । मलाइ अचम्म लाग्यो । आश्चर्य लाग्यो । पृथ्बी उल्टो भए जस्तो लग्यो। जुन साथीलाई मैले आफु भन्दा धेरै विश्वास गरेँ । उसले किन मलाई यसरी छल्यो ? उसले किन मलाई मबाट उनको वास्तविकता लुकायो ? यसैले मलाई जलाई रह्यो अनि म जली रहेँ ।</p><p><br /></p><p>मेरो भावना उनलाई पुर्याउने एउटा सानो प्रयास गर्दै थिएँ, बिडम्बना परिस्थिले कोल्टो पर्यो। तिमी फेरि पनि म संग फोनमा बोलिरहन्थेउ तर फेरि पनि त्यो यथार्थ नबताइकन । किनकिन मलाई तिमीलाई मैले केही भन्न सकिन न त कुनै गुनासो नै गर्न सके।</p><p>किनकि म न त प्रेमिका थिएँ, न कोही । सिर्फ थिए त एउटी साथी । एकदिन साहस बटुलेर त्यो युवती को थिइन् भनेर सोधेँ, तिमीले कुरा लुकायौ । मलाई फेरि छल्न खोजेको आभास प्रस्ट थाहा पाएँ । अबो धेरै दिन तिम्रो नाटकसंग मेरो जिन्दगी बन्धकी राख्न सक्दिन । म त्यसैले यो कोर्दैछु आज यो कथा ।</p><p><br /></p><p>कसम,</p><p><br /></p><p>मलाई थाहा थिएन कोहीसँग यस्तो प्रेम बस्छ जिन्दगीमा भन्ने । जसबाट न त छुटकारा पाउन सकिन्छ न त कुनै पार पाउन सकिन्छ । म जानी नजानी यस तलाउभित्र पसेँ ।</p><p><br /></p><p>भगवान कसम, मैले कसैप्रति कसैको जीवनमा कहिले खोट पार्न चाहिन । अहिले सम्म त म हरेक पल तिम्रो सम्झनामा बाँचेकी छु। तर म कुनै दिन पराइ भए भने त्यहि सम्झिनु मैले देखेको संसार अनि तिमीसंग भएको तिम्रो संसार ।</p><p>जहाँ तिमी बिनाको पल, म बिना तिम्रो पल । पक्कै अधुरो होला, हुन्छ नै । अपुरो हुन्छ नै ।</p><p>तर, त्यसैमा खुशी हुनु है ।</p><p><br /></p><p>अनि मलाई एउटा सपना सम्झेर संधैको लागि भुलिदिनु ल ।</p><p><br /></p><p>( यो कथा एउटा काल्पनिक हो । कसैको नीजि जीवनमा मिल्न गए त्यो केवल संयोग मात्र हुनेछ </p><p>Published in )<a href="https://www.khulanepal.com/2020/11/30/18912/?fbclid=IwAR0KjwgiyXA1v1xrXGbREJpr4aE4TvNc6lNJiLs28pfnkT6a_8yOwtUKJQI" target="_blank">https://www.khulanepal.com/2020/11/30/18912/?fbclid=IwAR0KjwgiyXA1v1xrXGbREJpr4aE4TvNc6lNJiLs28pfnkT6a_8yOwtUKJQI</a></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-43718496477132517662020-11-26T05:50:00.000-08:002020-11-26T05:50:06.120-08:00Happy Thanksgiving!<p>Thanksgiving is the national holiday celebrated in different
western countries on different dates. Each country follows its own tradition
and history to celebrate this day. Earlier it began as a day of giving thanks
and sacrifices for the blessing of the harvest and the preceding year. Now it is
celebrated as a Turkey Festival in United State extending thanks to the
loved ones.</p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">I would like to take this opportunity to thank my loved
ones, my family members, my friends, my relatives, and all the people around
this world who are directly and indirectly connected to me in this </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmem8-__Cg3Rdo9jlnIIg7442L_LApspG3_nonNtqr7KyEW0GSNdBho2kmg01LStVWww2vwK5u9DQKcqS8fwOHUenYCbwI2ZEA5Zo-h0b_Ev7ib6tLkOCsku6IrfrhdqRMGHNH8il5BUuj/s887/THANKSGIVING.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="478" data-original-width="887" height="252" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmem8-__Cg3Rdo9jlnIIg7442L_LApspG3_nonNtqr7KyEW0GSNdBho2kmg01LStVWww2vwK5u9DQKcqS8fwOHUenYCbwI2ZEA5Zo-h0b_Ev7ib6tLkOCsku6IrfrhdqRMGHNH8il5BUuj/w469-h252/THANKSGIVING.JPG" width="469" /></a></div><br />life. I would
like to thank my lord for this beautiful world, for giving me this life, for
giving me family and whatever I have in my life. Also, the people who came into
my life for a certain time. I am thankful to you too because you also gave a new lesson
in life which is also important to me.<o:p></o:p><p></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal">I would also want to extend my thanks to my deserving colleagues,
my employer company (DTDC USA), and entire team members. I am so grateful to
have all of you in my life. Each and every one of you have added to me important
values and have given me a new lesson, have taught me new things in my life to
move forward.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">We are going through a hard time due to the pandemic of
COVID-19, my sincere thanks to all the nurses, doctors, and front-line workers who
are working tirelessly to save other life taking their own life at risk. Thank
you so much for your hard work, for your courage, for your resilience in keeping
our family and community safe. You are a treasure in our eyes and your service is
priceless. Thank you again.</p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Life is short but beautiful. Let’s spread love, happiness,
and joy to everyone in this world. This time is not good enough for everyone to celebrate,
as many have lost their loved ones, many are still fighting with the pandemic
in the hospital. We know the situation, but we all are tired of taking the
precaution for this disease and staying home inside, keeping our children
inside. That is way a little step to blow our children's minds which is important at
this moment, So taking children outing for some time to celebrate this holiday. </p><p class="MsoNormal">Once again, thank you all! Happy Thanksgiving</p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> By Indira Chongbang</o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p>11/26/2020</o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p><br /></o:p></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-2890353745489905122020-11-21T15:49:00.000-08:002020-11-21T15:49:12.801-08:00एक्लो हिड्नेहरुको कथा <p> जीवन एक्लो होस् या त कसैको साथमा होस् जीवन जिउनु सिक्नु पर्छ, जीवन रम्नु जान्नु पर्छ अनि त मज्जा छ जिउनुभित्र। पिडा पनि छन् , खुसि पनि छन् यसैको साथमा मिठो मुस्कान फिस्व निकाल्ने हो अघि बढ्ने हो, अनि त रमाइलो छ त जीवन। </p><p>हो जीवन कसैले एक्लै जिएका छन् यहाँ त कसैले कसैको साथमा बाधिएर पारिवारिक जीवन जिएका छन्। दुवै प्रकारका जीवनमा आ आफ्नै प्रकारका खुसिहरु छन्, पीडाहरू छन्, भोगाइहरु छन्। कसैको नजरमा एक्लो </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_2dc5CWrBBKnQ3CffFNN8iwj_ikqMHSwVGMe8SR0IDGJvCpRA7jkeoqI97azP7CxjJKDVdsUucbD_015hHR7t4_8RWYXfVy08zVbflxOQbi8U1wSyNn4XswftNvXBvV577HF0xjtT7SnB/s818/INDIRA+FOR+YEKLO.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="423" data-original-width="818" height="224" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_2dc5CWrBBKnQ3CffFNN8iwj_ikqMHSwVGMe8SR0IDGJvCpRA7jkeoqI97azP7CxjJKDVdsUucbD_015hHR7t4_8RWYXfVy08zVbflxOQbi8U1wSyNn4XswftNvXBvV577HF0xjtT7SnB/w434-h224/INDIRA+FOR+YEKLO.JPG" width="434" /></a></div><br />जीवन आनन्द छ त कसैको नजरमा पारिवारिक जीवनभित्रको मज्जा अर्कै छ। जे होस् आज मैले यहाँ एक्लो हिड्नेहरुको कथा पस्किन लागेकी छु। <p></p><p>हुन त एक्लो जीवन जिउने महिला या त पुरुष दुवै हुन्छन्, एउटा महिला भएकी नाताले मेरो संगतमा भने उनै महिलाहरू छन् जो जीवनमा साथ बिना नै जीवन चलाइरहेका छन्। जब जब उनीहरु संग भलाकुसारी गर्छु तब तब उनीहरुको भावना अनि आफ्नो भावाना उस्तै उस्तै लाग्छ। महिलाको पीडाहरू उस्तै उस्तै हुन्छन् त्यसैले त हामी संधै कोमल हुन्छौ, संधै शान्त हुन्छौ, तर कुनै समयमा हामी यति कठोर पनि हुन्छौ कि हामीलाई जुनसुकै तुफानले पनि छेक्न सक्दैन, आधीले पनि रोक्न सक्दैन अनि जुनसुकै बाधा अट्चन किन नहोस हामी हाम्रो गन्तब्यको लागि निरन्तररुपमा आफ्नो पाइला चालिरह्नछौ। </p><p><br /></p><p>हामीले सानो हुँदा देखि नै सुनेर आएको एउटा साझा कुरो थियो, " तिमी छोरीहरु अर्काको घर जाने जात, भोलि अर्काको घर गएर अरुलाई रिझाउनु पर्छ, त्यसैले काम गर्दा पनि बिस्तारै गर्नु ,हल्ला नानिकल्ल्नु, हिड्दा पनि बिस्तारै हिड्नु तबमात्र सबैले मन पराउछन् "। सम्झिंदा पनि अचम्म लाग्छ, किन छोरीको रगत र छोरामा हुने रगत एकै हुन् भनेर सोचेनन् हाम्रो बाबा आमाहरुले अनि हाम्रो समाजले । छोरी पनि आफ्नै सन्तान हुन् भनेर किन सोचेनन् उनीहरुले।छोरी भएर जन्मनुमा महिलाको के दोष थियो ताकि अरुलाई कसरी खुसि राख्ने भन्ने कुरो मात्र सोच्नु पर्ने ? किन छोरीले चाही मैले कसरी प्रग्रति गरु, या त परिवार, समाज र रास्ट्रको लागि नै केहि गर्न सक्छु भन्ने विश्वास भन्दा अलग कसरी अर्काको परिवार सम्हाल्ने भन्ने मात्रै सोच्नु पर्ने ? छोरीलाई पनि पढाउनु पर्छ, ज्ञानी बनाउनु पर्छ भन्ने बाबा आमाको मान्यता भए पनि हाम्रो समाजको हेर्ने आखाहरू कहिले बदलिएन। छोरा रातको १२ बजे घर आउदा किन ढिलो भयो भनेर प्रश्न मात्र गर्ने परिवारले छोरी कतै ढिलो घर आइ भने इज्जत फाल्लिस है भनेर औला उठाउने प्रचलन अहिले सम्म कसैको मानसिकताबाट हट्न सकेको छैन। </p><p> </p><p>प्रसङ्ग एक्लो जिन्दगीको। हो एक्लै जिउनुको मजा आफै संग छ। जीवन आफुले भने जस्तै जिउनु पाएको छ, आफुले भने जस्तै खेल्न पाएको छ तर कहिलेकाही एक्लो महसुस हुन्छ, कहिलेकाही आफुले भने जस्तै, आफुले सोचे जस्तै एउटा असल जीवन साथि भैदिए ? आहा जिउनुको अर्थ बद्लिन्थ्यो होला हगि ? प्रकृतिले दिएको नियम हो यो, महिला र पुरुषबीचको आकर्षण, अनि एक अर्काको साथले पूर्ण हुने जिन्दगि। कसको चाह हुन्न, आफुलाई माया गर्ने एउटा साथी जीवनमा होस्, कसको मन हुन्न कि, साथमा कल्कलाउदा लालाबलाहरु हुन्। हो सबैको चाहना हुन्छ जीवन पूर्ण बनाउने, रंगिन बनाउने तर सबैको चाहना हुँदैमा सबैको चाहना कहाँ पुरा हुन्छन् र ? किनकी यहाँ त महिलालाइ प्रयोगको साधन बनाउने दानबहरु छन् जो महिलालाई कठपुतली जस्तै आफ्नो चाहना अनुसार प्रयोग गर्न चाहन्छन्। हो यस्तै कारणले कैयन एक्लै हिड्न बाध्य छन्। </p><p><br /></p><p>मैले पनि आफनै जीवनले भोगेका केही तिता मिठा पलहरु अनि एक्लो जीवन जिउनेका भावनाहरु धेरै मिल्दा जुल्दा देखेको छु। जब म सानो थिए त्यो समय देखि नै मलाई महिला र पुरुषबिचको विभेद, सामाजिक संरचना देखि बिद्रोह जागेर आउथ्यो। तर जब मैले केटा मान्छे हरु संग संगत गर्दै गए उनीहरु धेरै परिवर्तित भएको महसुस गरे । त्यसैले लाग्थ्यो, समयले मान्छेलाइ परिवर्तन गर्दो रहेछ। त्यसैले अहिलेको शिक्षित पुरुषहरू कम्तिमा हाम्रा अघिल्ला पुस्ता भन्दा धेरै बुझ्ने भएका रहेछन्। उनीहरु महिलालाइ सम्मान गर्छन्, उनीहरुको भावनाको कदर गर्छन्। हो मलाई एक यस्तै जीवनसाथीको खाँचो थियो अनि मैले जसलाई आफ्नो साथी सम्झे उसमा उनै गुणहरु रहेको पाए । </p><p><br /></p><p>जीवन जिउदै जाँदा समय बदलियो, आबश्यकता बदलियो तर मान्छेको सोच बदलिन अझै बाकि रहेछ । जीवनलाई अघि बढाउदै जाँदा सजिलो भन्दा अप्ठ्यारा पाटाहरु धेरै हुँदा रहेछन् तर तिनै अप्ठ्यारा हरेक पलहरुले नै जीवनमा नयाँ नयाँ शिक्षा सिकाइरहेका हुन्छन्। मेरो श्रीमान एस्तो होस्, उस्तो होस्, मलाई माया गरोस, मैले भनेको सुनोस, आदि इत्यादी सबै महिलाका चाहनाहरु हुन् तर चाहना भन्दा भोगाइ धेरै अलग हुँदो रहेछ, यथार्त धेरै फरक हुँदो रहेछ। तर कसैले कसैलाई दबाउदा दबिने कमजोर कुनै पनि महिला छैनन अब। हामी त अहिले यस्तो समयमा आइपुगेका छौ कि हामी एक्लै पनि खुल्ला संसारमा पुरुसबिनाको जीवन पनि एक्लै सयर गर्न सक्छौ, रमाउन सक्छौ, खुसि हुन् सक्छौ। </p><p><br /></p><p>अहिले एक्लै हिडिरहेको साथीहरु अरुको परिवार, अरुको सम्बन्ध देखेर नै आफु एक्लो हिड्न चाहेका हुन्, यो उनीहरुको मनको चाह अबश्य होइन । वास्तबमा आफुले कल्पना गरेको संसार अनि मान्छेले वास्तविक जीवनमा भएको यथार्थ देख्दा जो कोहीलाई पनि यस्तै सोचाई आउनु स्वाभाविक हो। तर जब कुनै पनि परिवार र समाजलाइ अगि बढाउनुको लागि जिम्मेवार पक्ष महिला र पुरुष दुबैले बराबरी जिम्मेवार बहन गर्दैन्न तबसम्म हामी समानताको कल्पना गर्न सक्दैनौ । पुरुषको खोक्रो घमण्ड र म पुरुष हु, म संग शारीरिक शक्ति ज्यादै छ अर्थात् महिलाको भूमिका एउटा परिवारमा जहिले पनि पुरुषको भन्दा गौण रहनु पर्छ भन्ने भावनाको अन्त्य हुन्दैन तबसम्म न त सुसस्क्रित मानब जीवनको अर्थ सम्भब छ न त कुनै एउटा सुसंजित समाज र बिस्वको नै। </p><p>Date 11/21/2020</p><p></p><p><br /></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-10840022348460549072020-10-17T17:53:00.000-07:002020-10-17T17:53:03.622-07:00 बिगतका ती दिनलाई फर्केर हेर्दा ( दंशैं )<p>स्वदेशमा जब जब दशैँ, तिहार जस्ता चाड आउछन् तब बिदेशीमनमा संधै त्यहि बालापनको सम्झना र रमाइला पलहरु दिमागभरि ताजा भएर आइपुग्छ। जहाँ रंगी बिरंगी फूलहरुको बर्षा हुन्थ्यो, घर घरमा नयाँ लुगा लगाउने रहर, घरलाई झिलिमिल्ली सिगारेको त्यो पल , नयाँ लुगा लगाउदै पिङ्ग खेल्न दौडिएको त्यो समय। आहा अब त केवल सम्झना बाहेक के नै पो रहर्यो र । जब नेपालमा आमालाई फोन गर्छु, आमा भन्नुहुन्छ; " यहाँ त दशैँ आयो नानी, तिमीहरु कसरी मनाउछौ, छुट्टी मिल्छ कि मिल्दैन् होला, कहिले घर आउने ? " यस्तै जिज्ञासा रहेको हुन्छ <table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiykpmHe1sPGODyQlsbsht6Lp-vk2l7JvA9UUbu4FMFYZiI0DG-cvhztGgcOjN17Ddd_4g0e5arrwGSsBpDdsmgByq0nUTvvQfEOBLxxzK-ki3-w1CsId_E_QnbxE2gimnLj9ZlPiPsLHFG/s960/Revealing+the+past.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="960" height="300" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiykpmHe1sPGODyQlsbsht6Lp-vk2l7JvA9UUbu4FMFYZiI0DG-cvhztGgcOjN17Ddd_4g0e5arrwGSsBpDdsmgByq0nUTvvQfEOBLxxzK-ki3-w1CsId_E_QnbxE2gimnLj9ZlPiPsLHFG/w400-h300/Revealing+the+past.jpg" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Parbati, Pramila, Patma, Indira and Gita at Pokhara<br /><br /></td></tr></tbody></table><br />आमाको संधै। " हामी मनाउछौ नि आमा, छुट्टी भएको समय मिलाएर भेटघाट गर्छु, चिन्ता नलिनु है " यस्तै हुन्छ मेरो जवाफ । यहाँ त दशैँ, तिहार जे जस्तो आए पनि नेपालको जस्तो छुट्टी कहाँ पाउनु ? त्यति धेरै साथीहरु अनि आफन्तहरु संग भेट्ने अवसर कहाँ पाउनु ? हुनत साथीहरु संगको भेटघाट, आफन्त संगको भेटघाट त जहाँ गए पनि भईरहन्छ, तर खोइ र कहाँ छ छुट्टी ? कहाँ हुन्छ घरलाई बेहुली जस्तै सिगार्ने त्यो जाँगर अनि त्यो घर , कहाँ छ दाजुभाइहरुको दसैँ आयो, तिहार आयो, झिलीमिलि झिल्का, तातो रोटी मिल्का भन्दै घर घरमा नाच्ने गाउने ती रमाइला लावा लस्करहरु ? छ त केवल मात्र सम्झना। </p><p>गाँउ घरका केटा केटीलाई दशैँ तिहार जतिको रमाइलो पल सयादै अरु कमै छन् । मेरो सम्झना त स्कुलको १५ दिनको बिदा, घरलाई सबैजना मिलेर सिंगार गरेर रमाइलो त्यो पल, घरको आँगन भरि फुलै फूलले हराभरा भएको त्यो रमाइलो वातावरण, वरिपरि खेतमा धान पाकेर खेतबारी नै सुनौलो भएको त्यो क्षण, त्यसैको सुगन्धमा प्रफुल्ल रमिरहेको मेरो गाँउ, अहिले यो दशैँ भन्ने शब्द सुन्ने बित्तिकै कुटुक्क मन दुख्छ मेरो । फेरि म त्यो ठाउँ कहिले पुगिएला, पहिलेका जस्तै ती रमाइला पलहरुलाई कहिले अंकमाल गरुला, यस्तै अनगिन्ती प्रश्नहरु खडा हुन्छन् आफैभित्र । म सानो छँदा मेरो एकजना साथी थिइन साइनोमा भदैनी,( मिना )। उनि र म छ महिनाको फरक मा जन्मिएको अरे, हामी दशैको टिका को दिन आ आफ्नो घरमा टिका लगाई सके पछि नजिकको आफन्त कहाँ टिकाको लागि संगै जान्थेउ त्यसपछि गाउभरि आ आफ्नो ठुला बढा कहाँ । हामी यति आत्मीय थियौ कि प्राय हरेक ठाउँ संगसंगै जानु पर्ने, संगसंगै खेल्नु पर्ने नत्र त दिन नै खल्लो हुने । हरेक दशैमा हामी टिकाको दिन दिउसो भरि संगै गाउघरमा टिका लगाउन साथीहरु संग जान्थेउ , सबैले टिका लगाइदिदै दक्षिणा दिन्थे , घरमा आए पछि कसको पैसा कति भयो भन्ने हिसाब किताब हुन्थ्यो । ती क्षणहरु सम्झिंदा सारै रमाइलो लाग्छ अनि त्यो बालापनको निर्दोषमनहरु सम्झिंदा हासो पनि लाग्छ। </p><p>हाम्रो गाँउमा लुगा सिलाउने जम्मा दुइ परिवार थिए। दशैताका सबैकोघरमा पालै पालो लुगा सिलाउने दिन हुन्थ्यो। कहिले बाबा सदरमुकाम गएर हामीलाई रेडिमेड लुगा ल्याइदिनु हुन्थ्यो, तर प्राय जसो एकजनालाई बोकाएर कपडाको थान नै घर आइपुग्थ्यो। रेडिमेड कपडा सुटुक्क बाबाको ब्यागबाट निस्किंदा हामीलाई सर्प्राइज हुने। बाबाले पनि मा अलि झिल्कि भएकोले हो कि खोइ दिदीलाई अलि साधारण कलरको भए पनि मेरो चाही अलि रंगिन खालको हुने। म सानो हुँदा मलाई धेरै बुट्टा भएको अनि अरु भन्दा अलग डिजाइन भएको लुगा मन पर्ने, हाम्रो लागि लुगा बनाइदिनु हुने दाइले मलाई धेरै माया गर्नु हुन्थ्यो। म घरकी कान्छी छोरी भएकीले मलाई कसरी खुसि पार्नु पर्छ उहालाई राम्रो थाहा थियो। मलाई कस्तो प्रकारको डिजाइन मन पर्छ भन्ने पनि उहालाई थाहा थियो त्यसैले अरुको भन्दा फरक धेरै मेहनत गरेर मलाई लुगा बनाइदिनु हुन्थ्यो। भोलि फूलपाती भन्दा आज चाही सबै सिलाई सक्नु पर्ने किन भने फूलपातीको दिनदेखि भने नयाँ लुगा लगाएर पिङ्ग खेल्न हतार हुन्थ्यो। त्यसैले कहिले दुइ दिन दिनमा सकिन्थ्यो त कहिले भने हप्ता जस्तै लाग्थ्यो। </p><p><br /></p><p>हाम्रो घरको मुनि एउटा ठुलो बरको बोट थियो, त्यहि बोटमा एकताका दशैमा ठुलो पिङ्ग बनेको थियो। त्यो ठाउमा बजार जस्तै हुन्थ्यो किनकी गाउघर मान्छे देखि लिएर टाढा गाँउका मान्छे हरु पनि त्यहाँ पिङ्ग खेल्न आउथे । जो पहिले आयो त्यहि अनुसार सबैले पालो पर्खिनु पर्ने। म र मेरो साथी सानै थियौ त्यसैले आफ्नो पालो कुर्दा कुर्दा नपाए पछि आफु भन्दा ठुलो दिदी दाजुहरुले सहयोग गर्नु हुन्थ्यो । आफु नखेले पनि अरु खेलेको देख्दा रमाइलो लाग्थ्यो। तर अहिले आएर भने कहाली लागेर आउछ, त्यो बरको बोट मुनि ठुलो खोल्सा छ अनि चट्टान नै चट्टान भरिएको ठाउ छ , कहिँ कोहि त्यो पिङ्ग माथि पुगेको बेला झरेको भए ? ओहो अहिले पो तिरिङ्ग हुन्छु , धन्न त्यो समयमा कसैलाई केहि भएन। सबै जना रमाए। कोहि कोहि त कसले माथि पुर्याउने भनेर बाजी पनि खेल्थे आफु भने त्यो समयमा अलि हिम्मत थिएन, पालो आए पछि सुइय हुर्रिने, आकाशमा पुगेको रमाइलो महसुश गर्ने अनि अन्य समय अरु मच्चिएको हेरेर रमाइलो गर्ने बाहेक। </p><p>तिहारको रमाइलो बेग्लै हुन्थ्यो। कुकुर तिहार देखि घरमा माला बनाउनु सुरु गर्नु पर्ने। घरमा भएको सबै भाडा कुड़ाको लागि पनि माला बनाउनु पर्ने। गाइ, गोरु, मान्छे देखि लिएर सबै झ्याल, ढोकाको सबैको लागि थरिथरिको माला बनाउदा कम्ति मज्जा आउँदैन थियो। आफ्नो गाँउघर देखि लिएर टाढा टाढा गाँउ घरबाट पनि देउसी भैलोको नाचगान घर घरमा झिलिमिली बत्ति बालेर आउंथे, रमाइला गीत संगीतको धुनमा नाचगान गर्थे अन्तिममा नाग्लोमा सेलरोटी, पैसा अनि अरु केहि सिदा राखे पछि आशिर्बाद दिन्थे कम्ता रमाइलो हुन्न थियो ती आशिर्बादको गीतहरु सुन्न । नाचगानको रमाइलो त बेग्लै थियो देउसी आउनेको रमाइलो अर्कै । हाम्रो गाँउमा एकजना गिताराम भन्ने दाइ देउसी खेल्ने समयमा सारै राम्रो कथा भन्नु हुन्थ्यो। अहिले सम्म मेरो दिमागमा त्यो ताजै छ, त्यो देउसी गीतको तालमा गाएको गीति कथा घरको कौसीमा बसेर सुनेको पल हिजो जस्तै लाग्छ, आफ्नो घरमा सकिए पछि फेरि अर्को घरमा पनि गएर सुनु जस्तै लागेको थियो । मैले आमालाई भनेकी पनि थिए फेरि उहाहरुलाई हाम्रो घरमा बोलाउनु मिल्दैन आमा। आमाले अबो अर्को साल भन्नु भएको थियो म संधै अर्को तिहार पर्खि रहन्थे तर एकदिन उहाहरु संधैको लागि गाँउ छाडेर शहर जानु भयो। </p><p>हाम्रो घरकै छेउमा हाट बजार लाग्थ्यो, अरु समय दिनमा मात्र हुने त्यो हाट तिहारको समयमा दुइ तिन रात जस्तै लाग्थ्यो । रातमा भैली खेल्ने, बजार जाने, अनि दाजु भाइको लागि भनेर रंगी चंगी माला रातभर बनाएको त्यो क्षण अहिले केवल सम्झनामा मात्र सिमित छ। एक सालको तिहारमा मेरो बाबा कतै टाढा जानु भएको थियो , हाम्रो गाँउमा एकजना दिदी हुनुहुन्थ्यो मैले नाम चाहि बिर्सिए, त्यो दिदीले कर गरेर आमाले एक रात हामी तिन जना छोरा छोरी लिएर राति बजार जानु भएको थियो। त्यो दिदी चाही गित गाउनु र भैलिनी खेल्नुमा सारै अब्बल, मेरो आमा पनि अलि अलि सहयोग गर्नु हुन्थ्यो हामी सबै केटा केटि सुनेर मक्ख। सुनेर रमाइलो हुँदै थियो तर राति म कतिखेर निदाए थाहा भएन बिहान बिउझिंदा आफ्नै ओछ्यानमा सुतिरहेको थिए। समय यस्तै रमाइलो, उकाली ओराली हुन्थ्यो तर दशैँ र तिहारको समयमा रमाइला पल बाहेक अरु कुनै अप्रिय घटनाको सम्झना छैन। </p><p><br /></p><p>अलि ठुलो भए पछि पढ्नको लागि शहर पसियो , त्यो गाँउघरको रमाइलो पलहरु सम्झनामा सिमित रह्यो। जतिसुकै रमाइलो भए पनि अहिले ती समयहरु धेरै टाढा भईसकेका छन् मात्र छ सम्झना हरु। अहिले सम्झिंदा त्यो समयमा पनि गरिब र दुखिलाइ अति नै दुख परेको रहेछ। त्यतिमात्र होइन राज्यको शाशकहरुले जबर्जस्ति दशैँ मनाउन पनि लगाएका रहेछन् । देशलाई हिन्दु देशको एकल देश बनाएर अन्य धर्मवालाम्बी माथि अत्याचार भएको रहेछ। मार हानेर सबैको घरमा रगतको छाप हुनु पर्ने नत्र त्यसलाई अस्विकार गर्नेलाइ त्यो समयको सरकारले कारबाही गर्ने प्रचलन थिएछ। यो बुझे पछि केटाकेटीपनमा भएको खुसिमा तुसारापात छायो। आफ्नै देशमा पनि एक जातीय र एक धर्मको अरु माथि गर्ने दमन र सड्यन्त्रकारी ब्यबहारले मन कटक्क पोल्छ। त्यति मात्र होइन चाडबाड मनाउने नाममा अरु निर्दोष प्राणीको हत्या गरेर, धर्मको नाममा मार हान्ने परम्परा पनि अत्यन्त नाजायज लाग्छ। आफु खुशी हुनुको लागि निर्दोष प्राणीको हत्या गर्नु पर्ने, अरुको ज्यान लिएर आफु खुसि हुनु पर्ने यी प्रब्रिदिले चाँही सारै मन दुख्छ । चाड मनाउनु, सुखी हुनु र रमाउनुको लागि हत्या हिम्सा गरेर मात्र होइन, तडक भडक गरेर मात्र, महंगा सामग्रीको प्रयोग गरेर मात्र होइन सामान्य रुपमा आफु संग जे छ त्यसैमा रमाउन पनि सकिन्छ। चाडको नाममा आफु संग नभए पनि ठुलो हुनु पर्ने, देखाउनु पर्ने, राम्रै लाउनु पर्ने, खानु पर्ने जस्ता देखाशेखिका प्रब्रिदिले कतिपयलाई हुन् सम्म को पिडा पनि छ। त्यसैले म त भन्छु, घाटी हेरेर हाड निलौ , दशैँ भन्दै दशा लाइ निम्तो नगरौ। आफु संग जे छ जस्तो छ त्यसैमा रम्न सिकौ। आफु पनि रमाउ, अरुलाई पनि रम्न देऔ। </p><p>समाप्त </p><p>Written by</p><p>Indira Chongbang</p><p>10/17/2020</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-51138571990038733872020-09-26T19:22:00.005-07:002020-09-26T19:28:04.496-07:00समय अनि भोगाइ
जिन्दगी कहिले शितल धरातल जस्तै लाग्छ त कहिले बर्षातको गरम मौसम जस्तै। यस्तै घाम, पानी र बर्सातको रुपमा निरन्तर चलिरहने एक चर्या हो जीवन। कुनै क्षणले रमाइलो अनुभूति दिन्छ, कुनै क्षणले दुख नै दुखको अनुभूति दिन्छ। जुन समयले जुन क्षणको अनुभूति दिलाए पनि कुनै न कुनै पाठ सिकाइरहेको हुन्छ। यिनै अनुभूतिहरुले जिन्दगीमा नयाँ नयाँ आयाम थपिरहेको हुन्छ। जिन्दगी सोचेको जस्तो अनि खोजेको जस्तो भए संसारमा सबै सुखी नै सुखी अनि खुसि अनि खुसि हुने थिए, बिडम्बना जीवन न त सोचे जस्तो हुन्छ न त खोजे जस्तो हुन्छ। यो त आफ्नो तरहको<div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVcYMKPi7U9IyTwaIjfpwtLP-8pYy-rKaoWxMYxgoc3SbHbHmHzaICTo_uYCgR5blrTsxFKvng4HXD2vuDfzCIx26_VquTEeOfyka-ATPCdUKkUuQvhswykLpouqkwr4U99xuxzhJrwfdA/s384/13438864_10153677299072322_8180686503150516562_n.jpg" style="clear: left; display: block; float: left; padding: 1em 0px; text-align: center;"><img alt="" border="0" data-original-height="384" data-original-width="384" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVcYMKPi7U9IyTwaIjfpwtLP-8pYy-rKaoWxMYxgoc3SbHbHmHzaICTo_uYCgR5blrTsxFKvng4HXD2vuDfzCIx26_VquTEeOfyka-ATPCdUKkUuQvhswykLpouqkwr4U99xuxzhJrwfdA/s400/13438864_10153677299072322_8180686503150516562_n.jpg" width="400" /></a></div> हुन्छ अनि हामी पनि त्यसरी नै बहन्छौ जता जता यो बहिदिन्छ । समयले नै जीवनलाइ डोरयाउदै लान्छ अनि हामी पनि त्यसरी नै चलिरहन्छौ। समय नै सबैभन्दा शक्तिशाली यन्त्र हो जसले हाम्रो जीवनमा नियन्त्रण लिएको हुन्छ। त्यसैले त भनाइ छ समय संग जब हामी जुध्न सक्दैनौ तब जीवनलाई सहि तरिकाले चाल्न सक्दौनौ। यथार्थमा समय र भोगाइको मिश्रण हो जीवन।<div><br /></div><div> यिनै महान समयको पछि लाग्दा लाग्दै अनि यहि संग चल्दा चल्दै एकदिन यो संसारबाट चटक्क बिदा लिनु पर्ने हुन्छ। समय जस्तो भए पनि, परिस्थिति सोचे भन्दा फरक भए पनि यो जीवन सुन्दर छ। यस बिशाल धरातलमा हामी केहि समयको लागि रमाउन आएका हौ, यहाका आकाश, यहाका हावा, माटो अनि सबका सब चिजले यसै भनिरहेको हुन्छ। तिमी यस धर्तीमा केहि समयका लागि खेल्न आएका छौ, रम्न आएका छौ त्यसैले जति सम्म सक्छौ मनोरंजन लिनु। हो यदि हामी मनबाट चाहना लियो भने जीवनमा जतिसुकै पिडा होस् या त बेदना होस् कुनै कुराले छेक्न सक्दैन। तर जब अभाब र बिकराल कुराहरु मात्र दिमागमा खेलाई रह्यो भने जीवन संधै जिर्ण हुन्छ, खोक्रो बन्छ अनि निराश हुन्छ। यदि भौतिक सुख सयल बाट आफ्नो मन र दिमागलाई टाढा राखेर त्यो स्वच्छ हावा, शितल धर्ति अनि उज्यालो दिनहरुलाई जब कल्पनामा अङ्गाल्छौ आहा जिन्दगी कति रमाइलो लाग्छ। संधैभरी बसन्त, संधै हरियाली अनि संधै सुन्दर । त्यसैले हेर्ने आँखा र मन जतातिर डोर्यायो त्यस्तै बन्छ जीवन पनि। </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> जिन्दगीमा अभाब र समस्या बिनाको पल कमैको हुन्छ। समस्याबिनाको मान्छे त्यो मात्र हुन्छ जसको शरीर आर्यघाटमा जलिरहेको हुन्छ। दुख , अभाब र समस्याले जिन्दगीलाई पूर्णता दिरहेको हुन्छ किनकी हरेक समस्याको एउटा समाधान निस्कन्छ त्यो समाधानको लागि जब हामी हाम्रो दिमाग लगाउछौ त्यसबाट कुनै न कुनै नया ज्ञान सिकिरहेको हुञ्छौ। त्यसले समस्या र दुखसंग भाग्ने भन्दा यो संग लड्नु पर्छ, भोग्नु पर्छ अनि यस्ता चुनौतिको सामना गर्दै अगि बढ्नु पर्छ। एउटा समस्याको समाधान पछि अर्को समस्याको जन्म हुन्छ भने झैँ आज यो काम गरेर सक्ने सोच गर्यो फेरि भोलि अर्को काम टुप्लुक्क आइपुग्छ। त्यसैले भोलि, या त पर्सि मात्र रमाइलो गरुला, त्यसपछि खुसि बनुला भन्ने कल्पना गर्दा गर्दै त्यो घडी टुप्लुक्क आइपुग्छ जब हामी यस सुन्दर संसारबाट बिदा हुने समय नाजिकिरहेको हुन्छ। हुनत जीवनलाई निरन्तरता दिनको लागि, भोलिको कल्पना र सपना प्रमुख कडी नै हो यधपि कतिपय भोलि भनेर थाती राख्दा धेरै ढिलो पनि हुने गर्छ। त्यसैले यसपछि रमाउला, त्यसपछि मात्र खुसि बनुला भन्ने सोच चाही टाढा सारेको राम्रो। जीवन छ र रमाइलो छ, बाचेको छौ र त हासेको छौ। के थाहा हरेक दिन कसै न कसैको मृत्युको समाचार गुन्जिए झैँ भोलि कुन दिन हामी पनि त्यहि समाचार नबनुला। </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> बाचुन्जेलसम्म हामीलाई घमण्ड आउछ, लोभी र चाकडी भावना पनि आउछ। 'मै खाऊ, मै लाउ अरु सबै मरुन" भन्ने पापी मनहरु पनि नजन्मिने होइनन् किनकी बचुन्जेली सम्म सबैलाई आफुनै सबै भन्दा राम्रो, सबै भन्दा उत्कृस्ट अनि सबै भन्दा सुखी हुने भावना जाग्छ तर आफु मात्र सुखी र खुसि हुँदा अरुलाई कुन किसिमको असर परेको छ भन्ने हेक्का प्राय कमैलाई हुन्छ। जीवन दुइ दिनको पाहुना हो, जब हामी कसैलाई माया गर्छौ, कसैलाई सहयोग गर्छौ, दुख र पिडामा मलम लगाउने काम गर्छौ तिनै अनुभूतिहरु मात्र सम्झनाको लागि बाकि रहन्छ। कसै संग मिठो बोल्दैमा को सानो हुन्छ, कसैलाई दुख र आपतमा सकेको सानो सहयोग गर्दैमा को गरिब हुन्छ। त्यसैले कसैको दुखेको आत्मामा मलम लाउन ठुलै परिश्रम गर्नु पर्दैन, मिठो बोलि, नम्र ब्यबहार र स्वह्रिदयी आत्मा भए काफी हुन्छ। कसैलाई आदर गर्दा त्यसको प्रतिफल आदर नै मिल्छ, माया गर्दा माया मिल्छ भने कसैलाई घृणा गर्दा आफुलाई पनि त्यस्तै मिल्छ। यो धर्ति, यो हावा, यो पानी अनि यो माटो सबै हामीलाइ प्रकृतिले दिएका अमुल्य उपहार हुन्। त्यसैले म मात्र यसको हकदार हो, मै मात्र बाचू, मै मात्र खाऊ भन्ने कल्पना भन्दा पनि हामी सबै बाचौ, सबै जना यस सुन्दर धर्तीमा रमौ भन्ने सोच आयो भने संधै हामीमा एकताको भावना आउछ। जीवनमा खुसीले छाउछ अनि दुखहरु सुखमा परिणत हुन्छन, पीडाहरु अमुल्य रहरहरुमा परिणत हुन्छन् । जिन्दगी एक भोगाइ हो, भोग्दै, सिक्दै अनि रमाउदै हिडौ ताकि भोलि यो संसारबाट टाढा भए पनि बाकि हुनेहरु हामीलाई सम्झिरहने छन्।
समाप्त </div><div> By Indira Chongbang</div><div>09/26/2020</div><div><br /></div>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-92130636621986519332020-09-19T19:27:00.001-07:002020-09-19T19:28:00.280-07:00 Our life is the most precious gift in this world.<p><br /></p><p>“Life is so precious! Live with love, joy, happiness, and abundance.”</p><p>― Debasish Mridha</p><p>Life is the most precious gift that we have to live and spend the beautiful moment in this world. Things can’t go well, the bad situation may hit or like this pandemic of corona virus gives time, regardless of those situation we are the healer, we are the winner because we can fight with anything that comes against our way. Our hope for betterment, our determination to enjoy the life and our strength to cope with the bad time are the real healer and controller of the mind and thoughts. Many people in the world <table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhW_wLPJNEc2-iLEQXOzoJGokLRV0zMqxCicoyLHVKC5ZIfdeP89DxLmUY3xgFchJTiaV9u06bFqmoLc8y-JTwwvQPnotCOQ-_3Pcd-JW60qbTTXvfdS_kqb8Jwll7GHf7JVGhdnRQuA22Z/s720/FB_IMG_1599494795382.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="540" data-original-width="720" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhW_wLPJNEc2-iLEQXOzoJGokLRV0zMqxCicoyLHVKC5ZIfdeP89DxLmUY3xgFchJTiaV9u06bFqmoLc8y-JTwwvQPnotCOQ-_3Pcd-JW60qbTTXvfdS_kqb8Jwll7GHf7JVGhdnRQuA22Z/w543-h320/FB_IMG_1599494795382.jpg" width="543" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">The view point of Astoria Park, NY<br /></td></tr></tbody></table><br />have lost their lives in this battle but some people lose their hope and leave this life by their own effort. This is the saddest ones to defeat in life and use own effort to go away.</p><p>I can face millions of hurdle, billions of problems but I can’t be coward on that extend because I understand how beautiful my life is, how precious my life and I know why I am born here in this world. Our life is the most precious gift and we always can enjoy this short span of life and spend the beautiful moment with full of joy and abundance. Happiness doesn’t come from the outside sources rather it comes from the mind and thoughts. We have to build it inside us, nourish us and have to plant inside of our mind to grow. We have to plant the seeds of happiness inside us, have to grow it watering and nursing it everyday. I can’t change the world if I am not happy by myself. I can’t help the people who need support if I am not strong by myself.</p><p>It is very important for each person to foster and grow oneself first. Without the inner strength of oneself, it is tough to make this world a better and safer place. That is why I understand my value in this world, you can let the people know how precious our life is, when you are strong then you can support to the people who are in need.</p><p>Life is not that easy and not that hard, but if we are optimistic and positive only the beautiful things come in our mind. Our dream may ruin on its way but we can always have a choice in life to dream a new one, to find the another path and to seek the alternative in life. When somethings go away which is beyond our control, let it be and don’t be serious on what happened on the past. We can always assume ourselves in the beautiful garden where we can pick up many flowers as per our choice. </p><p>We are the in charge of our own life and should live with the respect, dignity, and love.</p><p>The road to success is difficult but not impossible if we take an action and take a tiny step each day. Positive mind and thought always potrait the best things that is how I always see my brighter future /ahead, the beautiful dream ahead and believe that I have born to life the life with victory and abundance not to live in the poor thoughts and negative mentality. Our life is full of potential and unlimited happiness no matter what kind of difficulties, hardships, and problems come on our way. If we keep on trying to do a little effort, we will be a winner of tomorrow and regardless of what day we have today, the delighted space and the piece of heaven will be waiting for us to kiss.</p><p>That is why, I keep on dreaming no matter how many of them die on their way. One may end today but I can create a new one again for tomorrow. Someone may hurt me today, but I will be free of tensions tomorrow. Some door may close for me but I believe the better exit is waiting for me to enter. If the relationship ends with someone it doesn't mean I am ending now and it doesn’t mean the sky is falling. I am always open and strongest creature in the world, who can build many more beautiful things for me and for my loved ones. All of these came to me when I think our life is the most precious gift in this world. Let's join the hand together to make our life happier, prettier and to make this world better place for everyone!</p><p><br /></p><p>By Indira Chongbang</p><p><br /></p><p>09/19/2020</p><p><br /></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-27292162013509613452020-08-19T15:14:00.001-07:002020-08-19T15:16:30.808-07:00 Life is beautiful like a flower<p>The two words birth and death are complementary to each other and some even call them sisters. Life comes on this earth followed by death which is a fact of life. There is no certainty in life what is certain is only death. It is true one day we leave this world forever and the sky, the air and everything we love will remain in the distance of infinity. Overseeing the truth of tomorrow, we feel proud and assume that</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGcMPNXZLwlHhyphenhyphen-hLKOxzeq_j7wdIBE4GIoRFuRxBWnrW201hP9tBtSfiUp30jazQ4d2ermO-QFGZ9HkU_jTcIgwkfsC0FOsCxU6g8VNtcdL4EhqwkzJYjgporFfHIGOWpYqv7z144_6TQ/s604/19648_279636318567_5003733_n.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="San Francisco bay side" border="0" data-original-height="453" data-original-width="604" height="586" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGcMPNXZLwlHhyphenhyphen-hLKOxzeq_j7wdIBE4GIoRFuRxBWnrW201hP9tBtSfiUp30jazQ4d2ermO-QFGZ9HkU_jTcIgwkfsC0FOsCxU6g8VNtcdL4EhqwkzJYjgporFfHIGOWpYqv7z144_6TQ/w781-h586/19648_279636318567_5003733_n.jpg" width="781" /></a></div> the whole earth and sky are made only for me and hesitate to share the fair values of nature with the people. In fact, life beautiful like a flower, which comes to this earth in the form of seed, blooms, the fragrance fascinates the world and after a while, it withers away forever. In the same way, we born, rejoice in life, and take off from this delighted domain eternally.<p></p><p>We are the lucky ones to come and ride in this beautiful world because all these happy moments are like experiencing the beauty of a flower. It is the sweet and joyful moments in us that make life meaningful, and the memories become perspiring. After we go away from this world, only the survivors have our memoirs and recall the moments that we spent together. Life is so beautiful in this world because of so many reasons. The development of science and technology has given us the opportunity to ride in the open air, to float on the water, and to share our joys and sorrows with our loved ones, no matter where we are in the world. We are the luckiest, the highest, the happiest, and the most prosperous creatures of this earth.</p><p>That is why I say life is like a flower. It is not only beautiful, but it is full of worth and treasure which we can’t compare its value with any precious things. I'm not just talking about myself; I'm referring to the lives of all mankind. Because of the happiness we see with our eyes, the life of someone, and the life we have experienced is different from the sky and the earth. The eyes that always see the life of others as beautiful always see their own life as hollow, dull, and without fragrance but forget that this earth, this sky, and the breaths that everyone takes are the same. This place is the common denominator of all human beings. On this earth, some people enjoy life by making it colorful, dancing, having fun, while others are just spectators. So, we are artists, we live our lives according to our art, we live our lives as audiences as well depending on what we can by our own abilities. To see life as a flower or a thorn depends on one's eyes, understanding, thinking, and way of life that you live.</p><p>When we become unhappy just by remembering the sorrow and pain, then we feel that life is stuck in the thorns, but when we forget all the pains and dream a new hope of happiness, then we know the real passion of life. It is hard to imagine anyone's life without sorrow, pain and suffering. But, it is not meant that everyone is entangled among the thorns, stuck in a cup of despair. People who are facing thousands of difficulties today can dream of tomorrow with the full of joy. They can forget today's sorrows and rejoice with new dreams, lead life to a new garden of flower and decorate their world with everlasting happiness. They are the ones who are successful.</p><p><br /></p><p>So, it is up to you to make life a flower or a thorn. Neither wealth nor name, fame, and popularity can play a role in decorating this beautiful life except yourself and your thought. When the mind is cleansed, the world we see becomes beautiful, the earth becomes green, and life comes in our eyes a blooming flower. So even in every lack and difficulty, when we are patient, we love and care to everyone, the strain and sorrows inside us go away by themselves. Let’s think we are responsible to make this world beautiful for everyone. This air, this earth, this soil is not only for me but for all of us. Let us all exercise our rights equally and share the fair values of happiness and joy together. We can preserve the feeling of love and harmony and spread the joy to everyone if we build our spirit together. Try not to be discouraged by the happiness of others but try to be a balm to the sorrows of others. Then we will find life in a garden of everlasting flowers and we will be able to live happily ever after in the same beautiful garden that no one can take away or steal. The end</p><p>Written by Indira Chongbang 08/19/2020</p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-20063994614011294872020-08-13T15:21:00.001-07:002020-08-14T03:59:39.051-07:00The choice of women<p> We can’t imagine this world without women because they have continued the generation of human beings. Women play multiples roles being the daughter of someone, daughter in law of other, mother, mother in law, wife and so many more during their life span. While looking at their roles it seems that they are made for someone else not to live their life on their own. They have to please others and </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgSv0mmwLhJCpQf9Rzr9op8l34droEyDaA41CUnrpCkGzbSehu6qrjYRZvvatrTqbbPm4arK2HpWhUetV4Cvnevh3FFuaw0KkkziI-nZhCa8Vw0kujtynB8BF0dk63SFOY0QfUh2SROhI2p/s1125/117444617_917355518742447_7925063181800530669_n.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="844" data-original-width="1125" height="600" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgSv0mmwLhJCpQf9Rzr9op8l34droEyDaA41CUnrpCkGzbSehu6qrjYRZvvatrTqbbPm4arK2HpWhUetV4Cvnevh3FFuaw0KkkziI-nZhCa8Vw0kujtynB8BF0dk63SFOY0QfUh2SROhI2p/w800-h600/117444617_917355518742447_7925063181800530669_n.jpg" width="800" /></a></div>always need the validation of their acts from family and society It means they have to follow certain rules which are created for them. Then the society, the traditional system, people’s mentality always rules their ways where they are walking but they forget to oversee their own life. I am born not to act as per the people’s wish, but I am the artist of my own life which is made fearfully and wonderfully to enjoy the fullest being in charge of my own.<p></p><p>The priority of everyone should be what I like to do, and I believe from my heart, not the people’s opinion or what they expect from me. But the biggest challenges that women face are they always follow the other opinion, other decisions and can’t stand alone what they are made for. It might be so funny piece in front of the women who are far beyond in their independency but, it is all for the general women who are still fighting and trying to live their life in the best possible ways. Since the beginning of life, our parents teach us what to do or what not to do. When we grow up, our society makes many rules that we need to follow them. As a girl, I had to listen to the people’s voices what I was supposed to do and what I wasn’t supposed to do at an early age. I couldn’t use my freedom; I couldn’t decide what I wanted to do but became a sincere daughter listening to my senior people and following my society’s traditional rules which were based on the patriarchal system. As a girl, if I had stayed at my friend’s home one night far away from my home, I would be scared to face what others might tell me and my family. At that time, I didn’t realize that what life is really meant to be but thought everyone has to follow the social norms and values which are traditional, autocratic and dictatorship towards women and girls.</p><p>Even after pursuing higher education from university and standing on their own feet, many of them are still suppressed in numerous ways. They can earn and feed themselves and their family but, still, they cannot live their independent life. The reason behind this is they care about their family; they love their children and can’t be selfish to rush away from that kind of family who still follows the traditional norms. Looking behind the life of women and so many things, I believe that many women have not lived their life for oneself but for the sake of others. They follow to save social values, praise, and prestige even after understanding what their own values are. They can’t be in charge of their life because they are so kind, generous, and selfless. Only their own happiness doesn’t become the priority, but the collective happiness of their family becomes the choice of women.</p><p>While going through my own life, I can be somehow different, but many things are alike as I mentioned above. I understand very well this life is given for one time, that is why I should enjoy the fullest. I am extremely outgoing, friendly, with a manner of laughing, loving to have fun with friends. But, as a mother, I know what my responsibility is, as a wife I have to understand what are the circumstances that I can’t go beyond and many more. Sometimes when I fight with my spouse, I believe we are quite different in our ways of living and it would be better to live by our own choice. If I were alone, I would have done that earlier but as a mother, I can’t choose that way for my own happiness. The happiness of my children is my priority and always becomes the most important of my life regardless of the differences that we cope with each other. That is why I always have to make my heart bigger; I have to be stronger and have to go beyond my own choice. I can enjoy them in life even if it throws me to the curveball and can turn the darkest night into the brighter one. I have full of potential to be happy regardless of the outer circumstances and no matter what others judge me, I am the one with unique nature, full of values and beliefs to be reaching out to my dreamland. Life is the combination of sorrow, joy, happiness, distress, comfort, and difficulties but if we handle it easily it starts to shine even in the toughest time. It is a women’s choice to keep their smile together forever.</p><p><br /></p><p>Written by Indira Chongbang 08/13/2020</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Indirasite.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07703830937291337985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4411322364940836952.post-85381267481235843982020-07-27T16:00:00.001-07:002020-07-27T16:00:26.841-07:00Change yourself in the first place<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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“By behaving elegantly, you inspire others to behave elegantly; by behaving rude, you invite others to behave rude! You change others when you change yourself!”<br />
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Change is a crucial part of life and unavoidable by itself. We have to accept the changes in every aspect, and it is required to make things better than what we have today. We always try to change others and seek better aspects from others but forget to change ourselves. Better things happen in our life only once we start changing ourselves first. We expect the better place, better earth, and need the changes that should come in this world but, which is not possible by itself if we don’t change first our <br />
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attitude, our behavior, and habits of treating this world. The first place of change needs to come in our own mind and thought. We should allow it in our own garden of mind and should plant the seed of kindness, favors, support, forgiveness, and humanity. If we believe people should respect us, then we should start respecting them in the first place. It is always beyond my control to change the people but, I could change myself first to change them. It should come from my heart otherwise I couldn’t make anything better. Changing the people’s is the toughest job unless you change by yourself<br />
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One of the popular leaders of India, Mahatma Gandhi (Great soul) has said, “Be the change you want to see in the world”. That means whatever the changes we are looking for in this world to see we must start first cultivating in our life. If we want to end the corruption in the world, we must apply in our own endeavors. If you want the people to be kind and generous, you should be an example being kind and generous first to them. If you want to have peace in the world, you should start creating a peaceful life in your own individual life first.<br />
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It is difficult to start oneself, but each individual willingness to change creates power and inspires the other to follow them. We may face criticism while inviting a new change in our society or to change the existing norms and traditional values but it is necessary for the betterment and we should be able to cope with the critique and despair. According to the Newton law of motion, everything remains in uniform motion unless the external force is applied there. That is why social existence is a kind of motion and people there believe in that same thing that is already existed. Without external force, it remains at the same pace, none of the development comes there and if anything, new happens it is extremely hard to adopt that changes.<br />
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If the human being did not adopt the changes, we would have stayed in the cave. But, we are here today as in the advanced society because of the changes that came into our life. Due to the development of technology, our lives have been easier than earlier. We can communicate with the people around the world sitting inside a room. We can see the world from one corner watching the news. That is why change is always exciting and it is worth making the difference in this world. To make this world better than what we have now, we need to bring the changes in every aspect of our life. As a human being, everyone has a responsibility to take part in taking care of the environment, caring and sharing among the people, sharing the love and happiness, and spreading the respect and gratitude being kind to each other.<br />
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We should always remember the roles of great people who contributed to this world. Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela, Abram Lincoln are the example of change-maker in this world and their name will be never erased in history. Even though we are ordinary people, can take a little step-changing our own manner. Giving them love and respect to people, sharing the joys and happiness among us as possible. We are looking to have a better environment, better jobs, better drinking water, and a better way of living our lives which is possible if start a little step of change from our end first. In order to have better law and order in the nation, the existing one should be changed and has to implement the new one.<br />
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