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Wednesday, January 27, 2021

Enhance your happiness by expecting less from others.

Happiness is the inner state of mind at which we feel better, cool, confident without any distraction of the mind. We can enhance our happiness when we expect less from others because the expectation of support, love, and care from someone lower our happiness sometimes.

We always expect the best thing from the people around us. We want them to be compassionate, empathetic and encouraging but in contrast, when we don’t get from them, we come to be sad and disappointed. 

By nature, human beings are social creatures, we always want to be surrounded by people. We need love, support, and care from our loved ones, but we are not equally lucky in this world who could have everything that we want. Everyone is different in this world, everyone's circumstances, and opinions are different.  If we can blend our thoughts in a single pot putting our differences aside to form a loving and caring family then nothing is impossible. But if only one keeps on expecting from others who are not committed while pursuing the common goal, then those expectations will be valueless and also destroy the happiness that is still preserved.

This is just an example, it could happen not only in the family or somewhere, but it may happen in any circumstances, relationship, friendship, or any other social ties that we come together and work together for a common goal.

So, if we think that I could be happy if I had such people in my life, or I will be happy once I get married, I will be happy once someone I love the most will give me company; all the assumptions are wrong.  Someone may give you company to some extent and may help you to be happy for a while but the happiness that comes along with someone is always temporary because we can’t guarantee anything in our life. Even our life here is temporary, we can’t guarantee the relationship we have can give us permanent happiness and the company someone is giving now will stay forever.

 We have to learn to be independent, self-reliant, we have to practice our mind to enjoy ourselves, we have to discover the ways that keep us happy even we are alone or ourselves in this world.  Let's make our expectations less from others regardless of who they are. Someone could be your loved ones, your friends, or your companions, don’t expect to be happy only with their company. We must learn to live not only in laughing but also in crying.

We want someone to listen to our pain, pressure, and someone who keeps us cheering all the time. We could have someone in our life who listens to us, care for us but it doesn’t mean our happiness should be dependent on all expects. Someone could be in different situations one day, that loved one could turn into a hater one day, or many possibilities might come that we don’t intend it to be. It will be the toughest situation if we are dependent, our happiness is dependent on all those circumstances.

No matter how people behave with us, how they change the way one day, we must keep ourselves happy oneself. When we don’t expect or always expect less from our companies it always enhances our happiness. Let’s grow our mind and thought ultimately toward our self-assurance and augment our happiness to infinity.

The end

By Indira Chongbang 01/27/2021


Anonymous said...

तपाई धेरै पढ्नु भएको, धेरै ज्ञान भएको,मोडेर्न सोचाई भएको एक महिला, महिला-पुरुष एकै हुन भनेर महिलाका हितका लागि कुरा गर्नु हुने एक महान व्यक्तित्वलाई एउटा प्रशन सोध्न मन लाग्यो ! आजकल यो इन्टरनेट लभको बारेमा तपाइको के ख्याल छ? आफ्नो-आफ्नो परिवार हुँदा-हुँदै पनि.. आ-आफ्नो पार्टनरलाई धोका दिँदै फ्लर्ट गर्ने... दिनरात मेसेज गर्ने.. फोनमा कुरा गर्ने त्यस्ता कुलंगारहरुको बारेमा पनि केहि लेख्नु हुन्छ कि? यसको बारेमा पनि आफ्नो यु-ट्यूब चंनेल मा बिचार-विमर्श गर्नु हुन्छ कि? यस्तो श्रीमान वा श्रीमतीको पिडित जोडीलाई कस्तो सल्लाह दिनु हुन्छ?

Anonymous said...

I have heard that this women cheated on her first husband who supported her to come to USA. And now she is cheating her present husband with some married man again.